Fellow dudes when did you decide you wanted to have kids? Currently I'm ambivalent I like kids but also see the merits of not having them. I honestly think that whoever I end up marrying is going to make the decision on whether there's kids or not.

I think living a frugal life and aiming to retire early makes a lot of sense.

Recently, some of my family members are diagnosed with a rare diseases. When you look at the statistics, these are so many of these ‘rare’ conditions and cumulatively they are not rare.

These family members conditions made me reevaluate how I want to spend my life. I am 35 this year and I can’t decide if I should take great vacations with my kids or keep living a frugal life. Do you have the same dilemma?

Does EY have anything to help you get connected with an au pair company?

My Dad and brother didn’t even text me happy birthday 😔

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

How do you handle personal investments when married? For example, say you wanted to invest in riskier areas like Bitcoin, Ethereum, defi tokens, etc. Would you talk to your wife before every investment even if it’s time sensitive? Or do you have joint investment buckets where you decide together and then personal investment buckets where you invest on your own? Not married so not sure how this typically works

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

How much of a nest egg would you expect a couple to collectively need in order to retire at 40 and live relatively comfortable (not lavish)?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

Men marry their second mom.

Where’s the best place to live if you’re looking to secure an entry-level position working in PE? Don't have a family, really kind of willing to try anywhere at this point.

Have a 2 year project for Romania which will be extended, what are the Pro's and Con's to move there?
Also need to decide if i need to take my wife and 5 year old kid there...
Any links and suggestions please..

I guess I'll try my luck out... Isn't the ideal thing to have the passion and romance of teenagers, but with the maturity and experience of adults? Hopefully I could find someone here that has that mindset.

I've got some friends who work remote jobs, and every day I grow more jealous of them during my one-hour commute.

How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

How do I deal with minimal support from our principal when it comes to dealing with parents?

At what age as an EA did you marry, if at all? I find myself devoted to my career which leaves little time for a romantic relationship, especially during Covid. Hoping there is some balance to be found in this role!

Sooo my nanny fell asleep holding the baby. My husband and I work from home. So, he walked in, saw them and put the baby in the crib.
Ask: Any advice on how to address this with the nanny? Also, it it a fire able offense?

Context: Nanny started full time on 1/24; baby is not quite 5 months old; we are WFH and have cameras installed that are visible (she should know they exist); first time having a nanny

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

How do you convince your SO to accompany you to Varsity to tick it off your ATL bucket list??

BTCS penny stock in the move today. Thoughts?

Is 150k base salary enough to live comfortably in Manhattan. Assume no extravagant spending but decent apartment, eat out 2-3 times per week, vacation a couple times per year etc and regular savings rate? Hard to get a biweekly number based on all the types of taxes etc

Does anyone know if Visa’s 401k plan allows for a mega backdoor roth?

Martin CDs who need writers hit me up!

Have an interview coming up with Amex for project management roles. Recruiter said they are considering me for multiple open roles? Can anyone give me some insight into this? There’s a behavioral and American Express technical interview

Whats PDP-GrowthINV ?

Anybody awake and want to chat? 35M here!

Has anyone recently done an H1B transfer? How long is it taking on premium processing?

What is the saving potential for a H1B on-site offer with ctc around 75k USD per annum

Signed up for a matchmaking service a couple months ago after getting tired of the apps. And while I’ve been underwhelmed with their process so far, I finally have my first match date this weekend. Haven’t been on a date since pre-pandemic. And never been on a true blind date like this. Wish me luck.

I'm at a smaller MM bank. My original goal was to start here and hustle through into a BB, but I wasn't expecting to really like the people (my team, my direct seniors). I think the work we do probably wouldn't differ a crazy amount (we close deals, just smaller of course) and I'm wondering if I really have a reason to try to move into a bigger bank.

Perspectives?

Anyone has IBS here? Lately I have been having a lot of symptoms of IBS and even if I’m not fully constipated, I think I am to a certain extent. I had excruciating lower abdominal pain this afternoon and it was almost unbearable. Also, my period is approaching so I think my symptoms got worse. Anyone has any tips?

Thoughts on the Tech investment banking scene in Charlotte, North Carolina?

Are Kuroni Tokyo Chronograph watches any good / worth the price? Any owners here?

Ah yes, the recurring partner message on a Sunday afternoon to f*ck up what’s left of my weekend

Anyone work for a private firm but also work as appearance counsel for Docketly? Looking to use Docketly as a tool for marketing, growing my own book of business, and increase hours but not sure how to navigate the logistics of it. For example, conflicts, payment, etc. Any insight would be greatly appreciated!

Just finished watching Downfall, call me naive but it amazes me how not one person got jail time.

Motions
I work in a midsize firm and we have the basic subscription to westlaw, which doesn’t include the ability to see filed briefs, motions, etc without incurring additional costs. I’m wondering if there is a service in the NJ/PA area that gives you access to previously filed motions and briefs? So if I’m drafting a summary judgment I could search the service and find a similar one. If this doesn’t exist.. I think I found the next million dollar idea lol

Has anyone left law completely and never looked back? I’m looking into a huge pay cut going to be an EMT, but I’d rather be happy than miserable.

Do any of you have side-jobs or maybe hobbies that you make money from? Alternatively, what do you think sounds like a good one to look into?

Hi, anyone else end up in civil litigation and not really understand how you ended up here or why you actually kind of love it here? Even though you have to fight it back like a deeply established weed so you have some semblance of an individual life?

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!

Any recommendations on relocating to Hawaii? I am registered for the Hawaii bar but currently based out of Los Angeles and practicing in California as a licensed attorney.

So is anyone concerned with inflation coming? How’s is your firm dealing with this? I just saw a 1L of smart water for $11 in Midtown..

I have created a bowl for those who want to know more about their potential new firm - ask anonymously and hopefully someone within the firm will respond! Or we can help find the right person for you! Bowl name is biglaw offer - see you there!

Anybody know if and how much I can contribute to my Roth IRA to reduce my 2020 tax liability? I’m trying to pay less taxes but Jesus this pandemic has been great for my law firm and salary.

I need to perform well after months of bad performance for 6 months to not get fired I'm scared but want to do it impossible?

How does one find a therapist? Like what are the steps to finding a good therapist and does insurance cover anything? Everyone always encourages therapy, but never gives a run down on how to start.

Tips for becoming more independent as you progress from junior to midlevel? I am starting to be put into the position of just having to handle things including drafting and could use some advice from others.

Partner keeps telling me (2nd year) that I need to get better at using staff like paralegals to reduce client costs.....but doesn't realize that the only paralegal allocated to my group has been with the firm for 30 years and bills 1.5x higher than me.

Okay. Possibly a stupid question BUT Imma ask anyway.

Can someone just explain how you plan out how much to bill so you can make sure it’s not a mad scramble at the end of year? I’m moving from a firm where I was lacking in any kind of mentorship. No one ever just sat down and explained the most efficient way to track/measure your hours to confirm that you are on track.

Is there just a secret excel spreadsheet that all lawyers have and I just missed the memo???

HELP.