Had my one year a couple of days ago. Feeling kinda cool 😎😎

Things keep falling into place just as long as you show up and are sober. It’s weird, sometimes boring, but overall 10/10

Anyone going to the World Cup games In Qatar? My ex broke up with me right after I spent 20k in all World Cup tickets with vip access

To the extroverts: make sure to schedule time with friends & family daily, to keep mood positive and energy level high. Lack of socialization can be a downer. What are others doing to interact?

What is the best way to encourage kids still in school to pursue accounting? I'm talking like Sophomores/Juniors/Seniors in high school and maybe first-year of college kids. My daughter's teacher asked if I could come in for HS career/college fair day and I'm trying to put some stuff together. She said I can't embarrass her so "it can't be boring."

Best way to get my boyfriend to propose?

How do single folks (living with roommates) in San Francisco/NYC areas arrange for their parents’ stay with them, when they are visiting from home countries? Want to have my retired parents come and stay with me in 2022 for 2-3 months and looking for creative ideas to make their stay comfortable. Thank you :)

I just got out of an abusive relationship and now my savings are halved because he took most of it. In addition, he used to control all our finances including investing and I don’t know where to start. Can someone please help? Do I put my money in a Roboadvisor or ETFs? Are they the same? I don’t have a risk appetite to play with whatever savings I have left. Thanks!

I'm so glad to see the changes to accept more women in academia in recent years. I'm hopeful that my own daughter will be able to follow in my footsteps one year.

I internally scoff every time someone who worked 60h+ week and travel extensively says that their family comes first. I grew up in the circle of kids in similar circumstances and I cannot stress enough how delusional that is. So many kids who treat their parents like a fountain of cash with a bit of love sprinkled in. At least a fair amount of the parents learnt to regret it later on in life.

Seattle here. I had a 18 month stint of sobriety about 6 years ago. Fell off and now I'm slippin once again. I know being a dry drunk does not work for me. Glad this group is here. Time to re-make friends with Bill.

What would you consider to be a work wife/husband, and do you feel like they are okay to have?

GF and I are having major issues stemming around my family not liking her. Got into a major fight Friday and haven't spoken since. She said she's having doubts and questioning the whole relationship. Today's our one year...what can I possibly say. Don't know what she's expecting

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

To experience a rich life, one’s best investment is in that which even those with significant monetary wealth won’t be able to purchase at any price…. Relationships , health, and learning

Is San Antonio a good place to raise a family? Why or why not? We're thinking of making the move to be near family and have heard mixed reviews although generally positive.

Dreading the H4 amendments. After 2 years of being a stay at home wife, I thought I finally had a shot at leading "the good life"...but never realized it would be just a temporary dream.

I’m miserable living alone (unmotivated etc). Just waiting for my boyfriiend to get a house so we can move in together

Hi fishes,
I have recently joined a product based startup and I'm unable to do tasks in the timely manner. I used to be productive before coming here and used to complete all the tasks before time. There is a lot of job insecurities coming in my mind, also there's a huge lifestyle change coming up in 4-5 months I'm getting married. Not sure how to deal with everything and expenses. What to do? All advices are welcome. Thanks

Anyone here have a selfish sibling who only cares about themselves and sucks up to parents? But treats you like shit? Mine is polite and jovial in front of others, especially my parents, but wouldn't lift a finger if I was dying. As the older one, it pisses me off because I've done so much for them in our younger years but now get treated like crap since he is the baby and the favorite. I would have preferred we had got a dog and I kept the other half of the inheritance. So frustrated.

You go through emotional highs and lows that can be mentally exhausting when you’re trying to close multiple deals. What if I told you taking your dog for walk everyday is just what you need for a mood booster? Yes, that’s right! It’s called dopamine.

Any idea about BNYM hike structure and grade ??

New idea - airlines give us the ability to deduct miles from passengers that do shitty things, I.e. take your shoes off and put your dirty feet near me.

Anyone know the level structure of GE Healthcare compared to other companies? Recruiter just reached out with a senior consultant role and I’m trying to figure out if this is lateral or a step up.

Someone hiring or getting their pool of candidates for Jr AD in LA area?

Hello Fishes,

I got the offer from LTI with 14 lpa for bench and Hoonartek with 16 lpa for project.

Can anyone help me and suggest which is best?. Btw my tech is Aws DevOps

After 6 years of temporary contracts and unstable situations, I find my dream job in my dream company. All of a sudden the world goes upside down and I get laid off. I start sending hundreds of applications, with only 2 recruiters getting back to me to say I don’t have experience for the job (this is how it works in Italy). Add a terrible health situation in my family and it seems there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Ugh. 😞

Hi! I need some help negotiating a raise. I have been working for this company for exactly 3 months now, but I was hired as an AGM. I'm not specific on what my responsibilities are as AGM.
However the GM at the time, quit 1 and a half months in. I was thrown into the role and have been handling it since.
My regional calls himself our GM but is never on site.
Was reluctant to cover my shifts when I became sick and requested time off for a few days. (4 days)
Any thoughts?

Anyone in the sports tech and fashion tech spaces? Would love to speak.

I have about 10yrs of customers service experience. I'm looking for work, but I'm always getting minimum wage for this position. Should I change career path? Or is there a job for customer service that actually pays well.

Anyone watches The Handmaids Tale? Yesterday’s episode was one of the best yet. Thoughts? (Spoilers ofcourse don’t click if you haven’t watched it)

Hey all, any folks from Bain or BCG (especially those specializing in TMT) willing to chat? I’m a SM in TMT with 6 YOE + MBA looking to make a move. Thanks!

Several RM roles available at Capgemini. Send me a dm if you’re interested!

Base: 100k
Variable: ~125k

$1.2m quota. 3/4 of team is hitting quota. I hit mine in August.

Unlimited PTO. Pretty good benefits.
I work roughly 30-40 hours a week.

4 years sales experience, 8 years total experience.

Any recommendations for unique London things to bring to family in the states as Christmas gifts?

I’ve been sober about 14 months, and now with things opening up more I’ve been going out to dinner, concerts etc with friends. I’ve been finding it hard to have fun, or not get restless while out. I think a large part of this is maybe I find the company around me boring? and they’re also all drinking. Maybe I just needed to write that out and vent to say, I’m bored! Maybe saying that out loud will help me get out of my comfort zone to find new activities that change my outlook.

SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

13 years, 3months and 21 days! Its not been easy, but definately can be accomplished! Hard work, GOD a a desire to change, and not in that order!

I’ve managed well during all of this and am approaching my first full year of sobriety. But the thoughts of “I want to get slammed at a bar when this is over” are starting.

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.

Hi all. First time posting and I could really use some guidance and help. I’m at a point that I need/want to stop drinking permanently. (Continued below)

This time last year I knew I needed to stop drinking, but I couldn’t. This year, though, I’m putting my health first. Starting day 2 of sobriety and hope to keep it up. Thanks to this group for all the support and encouragement shown to those of us struggling with such powerful addictions.

Recently had a friend tell me about Kill The Can. Says he posts there every day to help keep the addiction out in the open. He is now over 1000 days clean.
Is there anything like this out there for SA/PA? My highest stint of days was 237 and haven’t gotten close since. Mostly making it 1 month and then falling again…
Thoughts?

Been running on self-will for the duration of this lockdown. My reserves that I built up in this program are depleted. Thankfully I was able to attend a meeting this evening, and the topic was 3rd step. Funny how that happens. Good reminder that a life run on self-will can hardly be a success.

4+ months sober. I do zoom AA every day but this was the first time I shared as a newcomer. I have some phone numbers from the group and hoping to get a sponsor soon. I plan to be sober 1 year before I can think of doing the steps. I read Living Sober and The Big Book every day in addition to prayer and mindful meditation. But would love to chat with someone “telephone therapy” can be something like Discord or WhatsApp.

Walked back from the liquor store between calls in tears because I can’t control myself anymore. Am doing an intake meeting with a Intensive Out Patient care provider next week. Will be doing therapy from 5:30p-8:30p like three times a week for two weeks. How do I tell my team that I’ll have hard stops for these sessions? I don’t feel comfortable sharing my alcoholism with them

Is Al Anon really helpful for spouses/children affected by alcoholism or other addictions? Does anyone have insight on this

I left my last job because I didn't appreciate the culture (B4). However, it was probably because I was a terrible employee. However, I do find that my clients love me 10x more than my consulting colleagues. I joined a smaller firm to cover up the problem.

I drink during the day. I know it's the main reason for my ability to be a productive employee. Anyone else deal with this? I'm trying to control it through moderation management, Dharma meetings, therapy, and white knuckling.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

1st of all: I’m super inspired by this bowl. I’m now mid-30s and recently went 50+ days without drinking and felt good/productive. (Longest streak since before turning 21) But how do you stick with it? I’m conflicted bc I haven’t hit a “rock bottom” and part of me loves a glass of wine to unwind and mark the end of the workday, but I also have a hard time stopping once I start (no such thing as 1 glass). Feel boarder-line between these 2 worlds and unsure where to go. Anyone feel similar?

Does anyone have any advice for supporting and coping with someone going through withdrawal? My husband is trying to quit his weed addiction and he has been irritable and mean since he quit. His mood is erratic and he is constantly annoyed w me. I don't even know how to bring this up without setting him off. Just feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I'm emotionally exhausted at this point. Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there anything I can do to help myself cope?

Trying to get my relationship with ADHD meds back under control.. the fear of going a day without is always alwayss worse than the day itself but the fear is nonetheless consuming :/

New to recovery and had an intake call with an IOP program. They said all sessions will be on Zoom and I’m really nervous that I won’t connect to the program virtually. Anyone start rehab virtually?