Has anyone worked overseas outside of the Army? I grew up in Germany / Korea and 1st duty station was in Germany. I would love to give my kids the same experiences and just be back overseas - esp London. I know there would be sacrifices. Curious if someone's pulled this off / how / recommendations?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭

Men marry their second mom.

I’m just kinda feeling lost, a bit like a failure , and maybe tired . I’m 30 f, single, moved to a new town, studying for the cpa, had falling out with the first two friends I made in new town, deeply missing my friends from back home, work has been a lot - job hopping . The partner was so excited and quick to give me an offer. I feel like I’m 💯 at this point just disappointing him. Idk what advice someone could give me , but has anyone else gone through “just surviving period”

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Anyone work in NY state most specifically Jefferson County? I have a Q re: divorce case, but not sure if I can even private message on this thing.

37M- How to start a (mutual agreed) divorce process in California? Can I e-file? Do I need a lawyer?
(No kids, no joint assets, about 4.5 years into marriage)

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

So I want to marry a physician (girl) as they make good money so I get a good life plus decent retirement. Is it selfish to marry someone for money???

Are there any parent fish in this bowl? What sites have you used to setup nanny or babysitting services?

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

Any homeschool parents in the group?

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

I always wondered what kind of side jobs that copywriter could do?
I barely get an offer and when i do, i felt bad for charging it much so i always go with “pay as you wish”

Guys i am switching jobs for first time so need your help
Company x offered me 9 LPA
Company y offered 11 LPA

I want to join company x more due to their tech stack, culture etc. It's also an established product based company while y is service based.
How do I initiate negotiations with x? I have plenty of time left in notice, but x also requested to join early (if previous company releases, with buyout+bonus) for which I have discussions next Wednesday.

I work in Nj at a pharmaceutical company and have been there for the past 4 years supporting a VP and currently at 77k a year and it’s not enough. Going to start interviewing elsewhere and want to get an idea of what starting salaries you all are at and what I should ask for. Any advice ?

Had been working as a BA/PM role at a financial firm for 3.5 years and decided to leave corporate to join my family’s small business with the mentality I’d take things over. It’s been a little over a year and I’ve come to the realization that it’s not for me. Im looking to transition myself back to IT/Tech, but am feeling apprehensive in getting the attention of recruiters with the industry switch. Any advice from anyone that’s been in a similar situation?

Question for nurses: What do you do and what's your salary range? Still deciding on which area should I pursue. Thanks!

My BGV in Oracle has been completed on 8th March. I have received offer letter but it doesn't have joining date. Hiring Manager has given me verbal joining date of 17th March. Is there any portal where I can check my joining date?

My agency is making salary cut backs cause of covid-19. Whole agency at 80%. Because I'm on a junior salary in Manchester that means 80% is less than minimum wage. Do I have any rights?

How do you ask someone you are managing why progress has been slow without asking it explicitly?

Is there a website that shares announcements of recent contract wins by federal contractors across all federal agencies?

Sometimes the leadership does not even inform you on the status of a submitted proposal unless we win the work. I get why they are doing it but it would be great if there was an external source/website that would share this info instead of us waiting around to hear from them.

Why do you think ZS canceled the internship for the '23 batch? AFAIK they did not do this even during the pandemic. Are the full-time campus placement offers also in danger of being revoked?

How often do you all train abs?

Anyone looking to join a rapid growth boutique strategy firm with great culture, great clients, and great compensation? Our Dallas office is looking for an experienced Manager with ~8 years of experience. I joined about 3 yrs ago after a decade in B4 and couldn’t be happier in terms of comp, WLB, and professional growth. DM me if interested

What’s consulting like? I imagine there are similarities to ad agencies but I keep seeing so many horror stories all over this app.
Anyone here from Accenture? I know one of the best ad agencies is now owned by them.

Can anyone share Scrum Master interview tips for Fannie Mae?

Salary - What is the salary of Operations Managers in Hyderabad

Hey fishes,

Anyone recently joined LTI as senior data engineer P2?

Man, i need to talk you, plz respond

Interested in working in PE, but experiences align more with the Ops side (3 YOE in strategic value creation). Is there a significant difference in total comp potential between ops and investments roles? Not sure how to make a case to break into investments with minimal DD experience, so thinking about Ops recruitment (Associate). Would also be grateful to learn about potential strategies non-DD focused consultants have used to ultimately break into investment teams.

Currently making $75k, which is very low compared to my counterparts. However, in February I’m supposed to get a salary adjustment with my yearly review. I got a job offer for $120k-150k which I turned down cuz I want to stay at Adobe.

How/when do I use this to leverage a good salary adjustment in Feb?

Hey all. I and some coworkers are reservists. We are trying to get the reserve leave policy more in line with other NYC bank's and consulting firms, as the bank does almost the bare minimum for userra. Was hoping some of you all wouldn't mind sharing the highlights of your institutions reserve leave policy so I can present a benchmark.

Looking to connect with someone who works in the Atlanta area (remote or in person) for questions regarding SIPR. Additionally, if there are individuals in this area that know of resources to use to find places that are hiring (consulting, tech, startup, etc.) in Atlanta specifically, please drop below. FYSA, I have just over 3 YOE (1 consulting, 2 government) and TS level clearance. Thanks!

Perspective. I’m retiring from the service and I’ve positioned myself decently to be competitive. I have a graduate degree pursuing a doctorate, LSSBB, ScrumMaster, SPHR, and PMI-ACP. I’ve been offered two positions that are great and on the human capital team. For someone in this situation where should I be looking as commensurate with my certifications and experience?

Weird question for those that have experienced combat and work in consulting

What's more taxing, a combat deployment or a stressful project?

Any tips for how to maximize property damage insurance claim?

I'm 1st time landlord and my single tenant in Seattle unfortunately overdosed on cocaine+pills 5 days before found in kitchen. :( Extensive damage.

Seeking tips - ex. contractor validating damage was on highest cost cabinets & flooring, replace all tile/grout, contractors upbid damage value (within reason).

Too many are advising being bold w insurance companies we all pay for most our lives, but open to all advice.

What is the present value of a government pension? How does one calculate it? Trying to get a sense of weather it's worth moving over to Federal.

Hey Ladies & Gents,

I'm trying to find anyone I can talk to about getting into DISA or CISA. Anyone have any experience with USAJobs and navigating the federal application and interview process?

Accenture is in the full gear military recruitment season. I was hired on through the process a few years ago and it’s been great ever since. They have paths for officer and enlisted. DM if interested

Have service related PTSD or anxiety effected your clearance level at all?

How much do you put into TSP?

How long after transitioning did you start to feel comfortable in your role? Feeling major imposter syndrome in my first 3 months

Founded a Nonprofit to help coach veterans in transition and exiting first responders and their families while focusing on changing the stigma of mental health conversation.

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In my prime workout days I could down 3 cheesy Gordita crunches, 1 chicken quesadilla, and a chicken soft taco from Taco Bell ....just tried it 10 years later...would not recommend.

Anyone gone through Amazon AWS’ military apprenticeship?

Anyone here use or know anyone who has used Vet Comp and Pen to get/increase VA disability benefits? Wondering if they’re reputable.

I work at a medical device manufacturing plant as a training coordinator, I have a military background and a degree and am trying to advance but am feeling stuck. I am a literal jack of all trades, and am trying to get out of the hourly life, I’m working an average of 100 hour weeks and have been for at least the last 6 months.

I did my time and got out and was thrilled but now I am insanely bored and don’t have much motivation. Am considering getting back in or applying to become a police officer / fed...cont

Any Vets here consulting in the DC area? Thinking about making a move.

My SSBI experience expires next year May, and my investigation is is in adjudication process. What happened my result don’t come back before my investigation expires?