Hello, new fish to this bowl. Wanted to ask the group a “How Might We” question. How might we deal with a Senior Manager that is out to get you? Some of the behavior includes but is not limited to the following: 1) Setting you up to look bad/for failure in front of stakeholders. 2) Gaslighting. 3) unclear directions and no direct developmental feedback. 4) Is going against organizational standards and refuses to follow the working models set forth by leadership above them. Continued below

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These things alone are enough to file a complaint with HR. If he is harassing you and he is the one not following SOPs and complaining about your work and not giving any developmental feedback, then it’s time for you to be out to get him.

** I forgot to add. Document, Document Document!! Keep times dates and details of everything and possibly witnesses to these issues.

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Yes. I have accumulated a paper trail of all dealing with them, because they are unscrupulous I’m finding.

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Follow up with emails and recap your concerns with emails as well. It is important to have documentation. You can also speak to HR about your concerns and ask for guidance as it doesn't seem like this manager is willing to work with you.

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Paper trails everywhere

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Document, document, document. If you talk in person, record the conversation if you are in a “one-party” state. Otherwise, keep emails, get things in writing, and follow up on agreements via email.

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I believe it is, I am sending email follow-ups post touch-point with them, so it’s all in writing.

5) Makes clear admission they have no idea what they’re doing/how we do our jobs.

How might we cope/deal with that?

I have some folks above them that I’m close to and am trying to problem solve through those channels but it’s always a slow-moving process to change things. In the meantime, how do I cope?

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Well the cookie cutter answer is that the writing is on the wall time to get a new job. I completely disagree and after reason story after story of b this happening in even more energized . I went through workplace mobbing, retaliation and many other things very recently and was fired at the end. We the people have got to hold these people accountable we are the problem , we have been conditioned that it’s right to work so better allow this bully to treat me bad because in need my check. So the bullies get stronger we get passive and the people we lead watch it happen. I don’t know how to make a difference but the anxiety and stress that is undeserved and unnecessary due to a terrible boss has got to have some kind of accountability !! I’m sorry you’re going through this ! It is terrible and shouldn’t be allowed

Looking at the advice around, I think it covers most of what is on my mind.

I just wanted to ask you - are you sure this particular "fight" is worth it?

Make sure you have active allies around you who will support you either emotionally or physically through the challenges.

The problem with workplace bullying is that people ignore it unless they are directly affected by it. By making people aware of it, you are impacting them, and some people simply want to find the easiest way out - ignorance is bliss!

It is made worse if/when the manager has established their position, and is able to play "the game" with their colleagues to protect their position.

I personally found that I did not have a support network. Getting out of the environment has been more nourishing, and I can see how the toxicity was bad. I have been able to correct my career path to where I was going.

Whilst there is never going to be a clear resolution to the bullying, time is healing the wounds. (Don't underestimate the time that is needed for the repairs.)

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, and I really hope that you have the support network around you to work through this to a successful outcome.

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Does this senior manager do this only with you? Are they part of the “good ol’ boys” club, or do they play golf with some of the directors and other executives? If yes, you will be fighting a loosing battle that’s rigged.
The behavior you site is very difficult to prove/disprove. Complaining to HR will only create a worse/hostile situation and possibly cause retaliation. From my experience, managers don’t get reprimanded and become “reformed”.

Fortunately I am a protected class (LGBT) and I’m learning disabled which is documented through our talent community. Honestly, the person above me isn’t as well loved, they emulate confidence in front of peers and colleagues but when the rubber meets the road, they are weak and crumble under conflict/challenges.

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