How do you deal with a colleague who reacts emotionally to everything and has no tact in their delivery?

I’m seeing how it’s rubbing people the wrong way and honestly just making people not like her so much (or want to work with her).

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People can't grow if they don't know what's wrong and no one let's them know. It can be a hard pill to swallow, but someone needs to try and talk to her. Otherwise she will probably never change. I was put in a situation once where people told me I had to change some things about myself. Yes, I was initially resentful, it hurt, but when the immediate feelings abated, I realized what I was doing and worked on changing. I'm grateful now, but at the time, not so much.

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Thank you for sharing your perspective especially since you have experience with this! You make a great point and I see the importance in letting her know.

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Is she aware of her behavior? Tricky situation because obviously bringing it to her attention will likely result in more of the problem, but if it's affecting other teammates to the point where no one wants to work with her... it might be time to bring up.

She is not aware of it. I don’t want to bring it up and in turn create any tension or turmoil but it’s becoming more frequent.

I experience the same and she does not allow feedback. Employees have quit because of her

Maybe offer some classes in effective communication and tactfullness as a growth opportunity.

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