How should I respond to a most petty situation? A Partner who used to mentor and support me, has unconnected from me on LinkedIn. It’s petty, yes. He was a Partner at a Firm where I was not yet anywhere near a Partner. We have both moved to different Firms. We used to be connected but he un-connected (disconnected?). I left under questionable circumstances, and he surely has the Firm’s side but the Firm never bothered to get my side. It bothers me. What should I do / feel?

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Why does it matter? How does one former connection impact you going forward?

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I hope none of my partners are this chronically on LinkedIn

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It’s dicey. Who says he didn’t also leave under circumstances or pressure? Just move along and let it go, as tough as it is. All stories have two sides. Blocking people is so petty and just bites them in the end. Play the long game. Play to win.

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Move right on

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If he was really supportive of you, message him and try to clear the air through an actual meeting?

A bit odd if a supportive mentor didn’t factor into any of your deliberations or goodbyes in the course of your questionable circumstances departure — not really sure if you were therefore disconnected that much that they much care for your acquaintance, side of the story etc

Your title now is Partner so I suppose it’s been years … in which case I’d expect a message if you actually want to mend fences is way more important than a LinkedIn connection…

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Id recommend flooding his inbox with fake inquiries. I’m sure his new firm will be thrilled to discover their “booming” pipeline is actually just a parade of phony leads. Really shows them who’s boss.

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What does it matter now?

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Random thought - What if his toddler unfollowed you on LinkedIn? My toddler does all sorts of things on my phone. I would give the benefit of the doubt unless there’s some bad blood that happened

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Who cares..

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OP - why not reach out for a coffee chat?

Forget it and move on

Been in that situation before. I sought out my other mentors and a good exec life coach to help process my departure. It helped tremendously to get different perspectives.

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