I have a close friend who was recently confronted about his drinking and reckless behavior when he drinks, he claimed to stop for a while but has now resumed drinking and just tries to hide it. I'm worried that he might be feeling shame and guilt about it which will escalate his depression. Any suggestions for how to help him?

I don’t want to stop living a double life. I’m a 29yo bi guy living in a liberal city and I’ve dated a guy(29m) for 5 years. I fly back to my conservative small town and pretend I’m straight for my parents (and extended family) because I don’t want to disappoint them or cause them any pain. I love them and I love my bf, and I want to keep both aspects of my life as they are today. My bf wants to meet my parents but I really don’t want to bring that drama into my life

Not as relevant now, but how do I get over the feeling of not fitting in at the gym? I am overweight and only see really fit people all around me, so it’s nerve-wrecking and I’m super conscious!

I’m trying to get my parents into adopting healthier eating habits but nothing is really sticking. Do you have any recommendations or like books I can give them to teach them what’s actually good to eat vs. falling for good marketing/ fads?

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

I am moving to Bangalore the next weekend, by 17th July. Seems there is a slight increase in covid cases, would it be better to come now or should I ask my manager to come to office after some weeks once everything seems fine?

Been living in a luxury building for about a year and start noticing that I have a mild cough when I’m in the building. Thought it’s just something residual after my cold but then I went for a week out of town and it disappeared completely only to start again when I got back and stepped into my building. Anyone experienced anything like that? I’m not going crazy, am I?

First day of 30mg vyvanse today. Had a rush of energy and hyperfocus (too much so) about 2-4 hours in, but had a complete crash 5hrs after taking the pill (just a wave of fatigue, felt very good after a quick 15min nap actually) and not sure if it had any effect after. Is this normal? Should I stick it out for a few days or is this a big sign that I’m not on the right meds/dose? Nervous to keep trialling this during the workday since a midday crash is not ideal. Appreciate any advice!

How to become good friend of manager?

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

Who else is most definitely going to be hungover at the office tomorrow morning and regret that last drink?

Strange as it sounds, I'm kinda gonna miss quarantine life.

Hey all, do you guys have any recommendations for low carb/high protein Indian diets? I am a South Indian, never feel satiated if I don’t eat my rice. Also not a big fan of rotis. Please pour in what other foods/recipes/advice you have!

I’m interested in pursuing cosmetic dermatology (possible Botox and laser treatment) for the first time. I’ve done a ton of research and the derm I’m most interested in going to charges a $150 consult fee but does NOT apply that cost to any treatments you get, whereas from my research it seems like derms in my city usually do apply the consult fee to the treatments. Would you pass on her due to that additional cost, or consider it worth it to see the derm you want to see?

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

Spent the pandemic working on myself, got sober, focused on working out, left the music industry and started a career where I can make money and have a steady work schedule. Maybe this isn’t everyone’s version of “growing up” but that’s what this was for me. Now that I’m vaxed and seeing my friends, it’s clear we have little left in common, and honestly a lot of the things they do straight up embarrasses me. I don’t want to lose these long term friends. Has anyone else been in this situation?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

Running my first half-marathon mid-October, How many weeks should I give myself to train? I was thinking 14. Not trying to PR, and can run 4/5 miles comfortably right now. Any advice or training plans you recommend?

What kind of bump in salary can one expect after a year of experience as a Jr. in Dallas, TX? Making $45k now

I’ve gotten massive returns by making huge bets on good coins. XLM is my current darling: FairX, ICO platform, partnerships, use cases and fast payments.

How is the GSAP tech allowance taxed? Bonus or income?

What is the best resource to learn JavaScript? Currently using freecodecamp and getting those certs

I know it’s 2022, but I’m positive my company is not the only one in the Tech space w/o a hybrid or remote option.

What things would make you reconsider your remote job search & keep you in pursuit of a job that was fully on-site?

Has anyone taken a stealth vacation (i.e. went on a trip but didn’t officially take time off)? Did it work out?

Hi fishes,

Trust everyone is well !
I'm actively looking for a suitable opportunity ( Senior QA Automation Tester) in Singapore which can provide Visa sponsorship as well.
By any chance, does anyone have references in Singapore? I would be available immediately to join the organisation.

References will play an important role in the case of Foreigners in Singapore.
Thanks in advance.

how much i should expect from BGSW with yoe 6 into embedded, linux domain.

Also are they doing 5 days WFO?

What is the maximum CTC I can ask during HR discussion?
I am 4 years experienced. Current CTC - 8 LPA. Have another offer for 11.5 LPA.

I am a mechanical engineer having 10 years of experience in wind and automotive domain. Is it possible to switch to IT domain. Please suggest some course without or with basic codeing to get some IT jobs.

What will be the pay hike this year? I joined in June month..

Hi, How much time does Bosch take to release the offer after HR round?

I have done oracle analytics work for about 8 years and for last 2 years been working in azure. I am wondering if OAC still worth to pursue. Planning to go back doing oracle analytics cloud . If so anyone hiring?

A question from a youngster. Is working at a big big company with slightly low pay better or working at a much smaller company with higher pay better?

In the future, after a few years, let’s say I’m at a small company and want to switch to big big company, will the “small names” hurt my chance to get into the big doors?

I mean big big company is like 10x bigger than the small one if this was a factor. Assume everything else the same, WLB, commute, teams, etc.

Thoughts on Centron?

Hi,

Can anyone help with tcs Gap affidavit. What is process

Found out today I was denied a potential job because the CEO and CFO had some argument with one of our partners and won’t deal with anyone from our firm. 😒

So one of my seniors who was highly rated just joined client. Positives on both sides given client needed better people.

Chatting with him today expressing view that ey (and prob all big 4) cont

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??