I need your perspective. My boyfriend and I have 1 roommate in a 3 bedroom house. We also have my BFs cousin (26) and his friend (32) living with us rent free because they can’t keep a job and are homeless. (This is a whole other issue) The cousin has a small dog with separation anxiety. Even if someone else is with him he barks non stop if the cousin is gone. We recently got a complaint from a neighbor threatening to call animal control on us for the constant barking… (continued…)

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That sounds like a terrible situation all around. I'd say it's time for a life reset. I understand having roommates to share cost, but you and your boyfriend allowing two dudes to live there rent-free is unacceptable.

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Yeah that’s wack as hell. You’ll realize you did the right thing once you meet your next partner and have a normal living situation. We get too used to craziness as people.

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We also have 3 of our own dogs so this scares me. Last night all 4 boys went out to a bar and at 11pm I asked my boyfriend yo come home the dog hasn’t stopped barking. I can’t sleep and I’m worried about the neighbors. We got into a fight and he basically told me to deal with it. They didn’t get home until 3am. The dog barked the whole time. I even texted the boys in a group chat asking someone to come home and nothing. I broke up with him last night between this and some other things in our relationship I feel like this was the last straw and extremely selfish. Did I over react?

No, I think your reaction is entirely appropriate and this living situation sounds like a nightmare. For him to tell you to suck it up… it’s unbelievable. You made the right choice!

Move out, living with all those people and the dogs sounds crazy. Decide if you can take 2 of the 3 dogs that you share. It’s possible that there’s a bark collar for the little dog that fits him. He needs to be trained. By the cousin. Remember—not your circus, not your monkeys. Leave them to stew in the mess, I doubt you could get any of them to move out and leave you with a room and/or the roommate. Good luck and you made the right decision. You will see that when you get away from the crazy.

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