I ran into my ex a couple days ago and it’s just all screwed with my head. We are kinda talking and he invited me to his company holiday party to be his +1.

And then he’s been ignoring me.

I was devastated when I realized I had to cut my twin sister and even my mom to some degree out of my life in order to have peace of mind. It makes me sad I feel better without their burdens. ☹️

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

Parents went to a friends house today. That friend said they were in contact w someone who got tested positive for covid this past week. 1. What’re chances my parents may have it? 2. How do I tell them to stay in their room at their own house?

Not to get philosophical... but why is life unfair? In both the micro and macro ways? My example - One of my parent’s is somewhat recently deceased, and the loss has made my living parent unstable...

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

Hi Fishes,
I have just joined an organization and agreed for night shift. I thought I could manage it as I have done it earlier.
I realized that it wouldn't suit now as ! see a lot of backlash from my 2yrs old boy. I have a feeling that it might have a wrong impact on him. I don't want to continue this timings now. I am less than a month here. How should I approach? should resign and look for opportunities again, lil afraid as I see slowdown news more frequently nowadays.
Can afford LOP 3-6m

Help!! Our 10-year-old is out of control and destroying our family. He always had behavioral issues but quarantine has made our lives a living hell. (Cont’d)

Planning a trip to Rome and Naples with day trips to Tivoli and Pompeii. Is 1 week enough? I feel like reading through 3/4 day Rome and 2 day Naples itineraries, the trip seems rushed. I have unlimited PTO but my SO is limited in time (but luckily he can work extra hrs and then use less PTO). I would say max we could do is 1.5 weeks but adding on 3-5 more days seems almost too much? Thoughts? For reference, I did Venice-Florence-Rome in a week and it seemed okay but it also wasn’t as planned out

Hey Boschlers,
Is tomorrow holiday??

How do you know if you have good hygiene? my ex told me I don’t

This is my routine:
- I have curly hair, can only wash it once a week/put dry shampoo if needed
- I brush my teeth 2 times a day
- Wear deodorant / perfume every day (my way, and good girl) and shave off any hair (I did laser but still), as much as possible. Some days, I cannot keep up with shaving (especially if it won’t show)
- I wear pantyliners and change it once a day/ change panties once a day
- I shower my body every day

How to leverage personal connections for personal gain?

I am a 2nd year and my spouse is a higher up in engineering in big tech. He has some (but not a lot of) sway in outside counsel and could make some intros to in house counsel.

My firm will gladly use my connections for their own gain, so I’m making sure that if/when this situation comes, I take full advantage of it.

Looking for tips on short term and long term strategy.

Pakistani people-born and bought up in Pakistan. Anyone married to an Indian muslim girl or guy?
How different were cultures?
How did your folks and extended family react?

Approaching the 1 year mark of my career and taking some time to reflect. What advice would you have for your 23 year old self?

Does anyone have feedback or recommendations on robo cleaners in India? Thinking is sending one to family. With lockdown mom getting tired of cleaning by herself.

Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

Any advice 24m

Never dated before. What confrontational questions I should get out of the way?

Both looking for marriage. Get to know each other a little bit then bring up marriage with parents.

Bummed dragon flight is being released after thanksgiving break. Now I gotta take PTO on Tuesday 🤷.. oh well

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

Anyone stay in a marriage just for the kids? Did it work well?

Kamusta? I'm new here.
I'm a CPA in the Philippines. I'm thinking if I can continue my profession and progress my career in other country and also to seek higher salary with great benefits but less cost of living. Where do you think should I start checking on? 😁
I'm thinking if I should go back as External Assurance Auditor to where I am 2.5 yrs ago in a one of the Big 4 before I became a Consultant on a project-based as, so far, as Tax Specialist. Any advise to my baby mind? Thank you! 😊

What’s the best resource to find female DP’s?

Can’t wait for Saturday to come so that my date and I can Netflix and chill, then having him sleeping over and I waking up next to him. Miss his warmth and miss giving and receiving cuddles. I like the feeling of having certain people making you behave in a more tender way. I’ve been literally longing for that moment for the week as I’m on a boring PMO case. Romance is not lost between gay guys! :)

Hello! I am hiring for a few different Engineering roles. Ranging from 3-5 years of experience with writing code or proficiency in a programming language. Please DM me if interested/fully remote! Growing startup and would love to add the talent.

all those who have joinings in coming months in Tcs, think twice before joining. i m itself a victim. forcefull wfo is the worst kind of thing here, no shift flexibility nothing, all project ppl asking 5 days- 9 hrs whichever I got call from....i bet if you have any other counter offers- better go with that. its been 7 months i joined & i resigned!

Has anyone taken  ACAMS Certified Global Sanctions Specialist (CGSS)? Any comments/ reviews? How has it enhanced your employability? Why did you take the CGSS?

AMA: International Travel (US to Europe) During Coronavirus! I found very little info on this topic before my trip and had a bunch of questions which I wish someone could have helped with. Now, a friend and I both traveled US to Europe in the last week, different routes, in Econ/Biz. For anyone else looking to do the same, I’m happy to answer anything about the process - check in, flights, mask usage, security, visa checks, airports, social distancing, etc.

Hello friends! Could use some help with likes to open up DMs. Experience in international humanitarian supply chains , happy to chat with anyone who is interested in that. Thanks in advance !

How much hike percent can we expect during promotion from analyst to consultant.

Turning 28 and hit $300K NW today. Never formally FIRE’d but want to set out a plan for here onwards. What’s some good material / easy reading to start with?

I moved to a new city and reconnected with an old friend. We’ve been spending a lot of time together (not dating) and things are beginning to get a little steamy. He’s made it clear that sex is important to him in a relationship, but I’m celibate and plan to wait till marriage. I don’t see a future with him, but I enjoy being friends. Am I being selfish to hold on to him even though I know I would never give him the sex he wants? Should I just cut him loose right away? Please help.

I am far along in the interview process for a job I want (meeting with Chief Legal Officer next week), but am still accepting other interviews until I have a formal offer. However, I have an interview scheduled for early this week where, after further research, I don’t think I would be very happy. Should I let the recruiter know that now, or just do the interview for more “practice”? Thanks!

Anyone with experience working for/with AVIA? While they are a bit more niche, working on Digital Transformation, curious on thoughts about them.

Desi parents: do you feel a constant insecurity with rising gun violence? I felt like it was fine as long as it was ke and the wife, but when you ahve kids then its a constant fear in supermarkets, roads, malls and now schools.

How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

Other than Medtronic, which med device companies would you consider the cream of the crop?

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)