I’m a guy and I want to dispel a common myth that my fellow men have, namely: men age like wine. This is patently not true, and is a lie many men tell themselves. I, recently came back from a dinner with my mixed friend circle, many of whom are approaching marriageable age, and this one particular dynamic was abundantly clear. (Continued in comments)

If at all, how do you guys manage romantic relationships in IB? It’s easier if your s/o is in the industry bc they have an innate understanding someone outside wouldn’t but I don’t think that means you have to find someone in the industry. Curious to hear some thoughts.

I've been so lucky to have tons of friends giving me hand me downs but it seems like it might be too much if I accept everything. What are the absolute necessaries that I should accept multiples of and what can I pass on?

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

SO said he couldn’t receive letters during Ranger School, but finding info online that I can send. Any insight? Maybe he doesn’t want the distraction?

Feeling really sad about friends I have drifted apart from despite efforts to stay in touch. My best friend from high school and I haven’t seen each other in about 4 years, I messaged her a year ago, got a nice response from her, and I tried keeping the convo going but she left me on read. Offered her and her boyfriend tickets to join me and my boyfriend at a concert in fall 2019, left us on read with no response. Her bday was last week and she left my bday wishes on read too. I’m so sad.

When you’re wondering if you need marriage counseling instead of looking forward to vacation planning 😔

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

My boyfriend is only 6 months older than I am and he is kicking ass at his job. It’s so hard to feel that even though I work 1.5x the hours he does and had to get my CPA and a master’s that he is making way more money/getting more recognition. His company wants to promote him to to manager soon while I feel like I’m licking shit off the floor for a pat on the back. How do I not get jealous???

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

People who have transitioned from consulting to industry or an objectively less demanding role (i.e working 40-45 hrs a week), what makes you feel good about your decision? After a decade in client services, I’m reaching a breaking point and can’t see consulting being sustainable with a young family. But I’m so achievement-driven that I’m having a hard time taking my foot off the gas; I know seeing peers advance once I’ve stepped away will be hard. For context, I’m F and ~8 yrs away from Partner

Hadn’t noticed this sub before, and most of the threads are old so thought I’d ask a follow up - how has everyone been handling parenting with public accounting? I’ve got a toddler and my wife is an accountant (industry), and we only have a few immediate family in the country- but they have health concerns. Busy season was rough, things are looking better now as things return to normal. Still working crazy hours if you count the daycare duties on top of utilization targets.

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

So sad to see my beloved Cooley becomes a laughing stock. I still remember the day that a classmate of my 7-year-old thought I am a food delivery guy. Can't blame him cause I was wearing a jacket with a large COOLEY logo. He just learned the word "Cooler" the day before.

An old uncle sit next to me in office and always pass gas.
How to deal?

Are there some in this group that are here to chat as well? I’m a married M, but wouldn’t mind a friend that’s here to chat

Pissed at my ex gf’s homophobic parents who are the reason for making our relationship hell by forcing her to get married to dudes they bring from a matrimonial website and for her to break up with me.

Any recommendation for a divorce lawyer? Anyone experience with a divorce. 😔 can’t believe marriage is failing after all these years

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

Did Pinterest lift their ban on advertising branded/unbranded pharma? It got brought up in a brainstorm today and almost spit out my coffee...

Turning 28 and hit $300K NW today. Never formally FIRE’d but want to set out a plan for here onwards. What’s some good material / easy reading to start with?

I think I need Ex bankers as friend and accountants. I need people who we can discuss deals in the swift world with from time to time. I need people with great ideas in my life

Hello! Any one in here who can give me a referral for a position at McKinsey and BCG? Thanks in advance!!

Hi Citi Sharks,

How many of you have got pop up during netbanking Or mail to switch from citi account to Axis account. How long can we have the citi bank, I have few FD s as well not sure what will happen. Citi Citicorp services india pvt ltd

Most sweatshop agencies?

Did Mindtree fire its lateral hire if they cannot clear 3 4 client interviews ?

What is the relocation allowance at Natwest ? Thanks

What would be a good offer for a veterinary nurse with 8 years of experience, I am currently looking for a new job and I have already received two offers where the payment is very similar. I would like to know how other colleagues would assess me to see if I can negotiate my pay or not.

How is Deloitte GBS?

Who are the best recruiters for top tier consultants? Went in-house at a bank and not getting as many candidates as I'd like for open reqs on my team. Think I need to switch up our recruiting partners.

All Chartered Engineers, specifically Mechanical Engineers. How high can your salary get in the UK if you become chartered and with the right company? £100k a fair ask? Is £200k+ possible??

Good places to go in December? I was thinking Portugal - but heard it gets cold cold. Any other recommendations?

Anyone joined top social clubs (i.e. Zero Bond, Norwood, Metropolitan)? Why were you accepted in & did it meet your expectations?

Girl I was seeing 6 months ago went suddenly cold and blocked me off all socials saying she wasn’t ready etc. Now she’s tried to follow me on insta out of the blue. It hurt at the time and so has opened a bit of a wound. A bit confused as to what she might want?

So something crazy happened to me last week. I was at the airport, and as usual on call after call. The check in line was going ridiculously slowly and at some point turned threw my hands up in frustration while looking around to find another place to check in. In doing so, I catch the eye of the behind me. He smiles and says something. I just sort of nod and carry on with my call. After that, he keeps trying to talk to me, eventually I got to the check, say bye and leave. At security… tbc

For those of you in your mid-20’s, how often do you go on dates with your significant other? In a serious relationship for the first time since college and trying to gauge what folks consider normal for dating frequency (excluding nights in). Context - we’re 25, dating for 3 months, live 5 mins away from each other, decent WLB

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

Hi all,

There is guy living near my place and i find him really attractive. And sometimes I come across him in the gym. But I'm not sure if he likes me or not. How to handle this situation?
Any suggestions?

Any success stories out there of couples who come from different socioeconomic backgrounds? I’ve heard this difference (statistically) can be a huge barrier to success in a relationship. I’ll add more context in the comments if it helps.

Dear Men - Need your perspective.

How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Longest dry spell? Single people only!

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

How often do you and your SO text/talk during the days you’re not together? My bf has a pretty busy job so we don’t really communicate during the day, but when it gets to be like 8pm and I haven’t heard from him at all it bothers me. Is that wrong? And how would you communicate to them that you want a bit more check-in/form of communication without coming off as needy

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

Boyfriend threw a bottle at my laptop screen last night. Another toxic Friday night after drinking 😞

Is it a red flag if they’re an associate?

Thoughts on convincing gf to stay? 27M dating 28F for ~1.5 years. We knew each other in HS and reconnected during the pandemic. Everything was so connected, compatible and hot, and we planned a life together. We thought we met the loves of our lives. We moved to NYC in January. Lost intimacy and connection. She’s unwilling to work on things. Such a genuinely talented and beautiful woman, but has trust issues and depression from being overworked. Thoughts on convincing vs surrendering / leaving?