I’m at 20 months now. Tbh, I feel worse than I did when I came in. Yes I do a lot of service - started a new mtg that is popular in its 8 mo, sponsor, give rides, make calls, have a healthy variety of friends and social life, teach yoga and on and on. The loneliness at night has reached unbearable levels. Never had this when I was drinking. Dating as a 41 yo sober gay man is impossible. I have plenty of sex, but no one wants to date me. Sobriety is a scarlet letter. Loneliness is unbearable.

I was accosted last night at the bar when some guy overheard me telling my date I worked at Apple. Lots of expletives and "go back to where you're from" rhetoric. Do people really feel this way? So far, everyone I've met has been so welcoming.

23 F Maharashtra, wanted to try virtual dating.. not sure if its worth the time or not let sees

30 m ny/nj. US citizen. Moved as a teenager. INTJ. Single since I figured I’m not fighting the biological clock and have all the time in the world to meet someone and get settled. Things changed after I watched Akshay’s mom (Indian Matchmaking) tell him even 25 is too late and not marrying somehow messes up lives of people around him. While the show was staged, there might be truth to the latter part.
Looking for F in ny/nj. Personality: NOT Aparna. NOT Nadia but def more Nadia than Aparna.🙏

Why don't we choose a time date and place

Any ladies that would like to go out for dinner? 27M 🙃

Which dating app you recommend to use?

(Preferably free to low cost)
For dating and relationships!

Ladies what are the best apps to find a one night stand with a normal guy?

34 F, looking for fun loving simple guy for something meaningful.

Need advice. Very Shy guy and girl, met a while back for a side hustle both like each other a LOT, relationship has progressed in other areas but not in the physical realm, primarily because neither officially asked the other out. Guy is a very rough around edges, asked for a date by saying ‘anytime you need breakfast or lunch, let me know’. I am an independent gal and didn’t like the way it came across. I really want to take this forward but am out of ideas on how to make a date happen.

Hey

Male here,

Anyone up for weekend catchup and drive ...female preferred ;)

Ladies, if a man asks you out on a date but you aren’t available that weekend and you don’t offer an alternate date or time, should he ask again the next week…or ever?

Hey guys,

This is an embarassing question to ask but every time I go on a date, guys keep pestering me how am I single and 34. I am too exhausted to answer it.

I know the stereotype is that something is wrong with us. I have days where I can't keep my chin up anymore

Saw a post in the confession bowl so I wanted to check this bowl out. Any hot, smart, rich and single guys in this bowl?😁

Where do you stay up to date in the best ideas from the industry?

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

Signed up for a matchmaking service a couple months ago after getting tired of the apps. And while I’ve been underwhelmed with their process so far, I finally have my first match date this weekend. Haven’t been on a date since pre-pandemic. And never been on a true blind date like this. Wish me luck.

Is this a bowl which would only have single males who are not getting matches on any dating apps and just trying anywhere and everywhere?
😂

34/male /northern VA/white/balding/starting to get a dad bod/im probably single for a reason

Super appealing right?

Is it safe to join PWC india at this point of time. Are we expecting any layoffs?

Haha it's a mix of product management, project management, product development, consulting work, technical stuff, analytical stuff. Literally anything the project needs to succeed haha

Work in consulting division of acct firm making $88K base as senior associate 1. Interviewing with boutique consulting firm who has “competitive comp” and “typically more than Big4”. Is $105k high?

Just found out there’s an ECD in a big NYC agency who claims to have won awards, but the name doesn’t pop up in any of the archives.

How do they get away with it?

News about Demi Lovato’s overdose is really devastating. Just goes to show that you can be successful with access to the best healthcare and resources but mental illness doesn’t discriminate

Any L&D nurses in Birmingham, AL? Moving there soon and wondering how much of a pay difference there will be compared to where I am now. Any hospitals to avoid?

Which navigation apps do you prefer using besides google maps for driving long distances?

Dell vs SAP labs which is better in terms of work?

When does Natwest initiate employee onboarding after background verification?

Does it happen in the last week before joining?

Hi fishes,
Anyone know what is subway account in Capgemini?

Does anyone have feedback or recommendations on robo cleaners in India? Thinking is sending one to family. With lockdown mom getting tired of cleaning by herself.

Almost a week with On-site interview and it’s been a radio silence from my recruiter. Should I reach back to them or is it normal? Not at all impatient, just trying to know what’s the norm.

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

2 part question:

- Does anyone know who Accenture uses for their 3rd party background checks?
- If i allow them to contact my current employer, do they still ask for W2’s and Paystubs?

Should you mention side hustle work in an interview? Not gaining transferable skills in my current role but have been doing freelance work on the side that is highly applicable.

Interested in everyone’s opinions on replica luxury. I ask because, as noted in the previous thread re: Chanel’s price increases, the quality of authentic luxury bags is going way down while the price increases consistently. Specifically Chanel and LV. I’m fascinated in the online rep community and it looks like rep quality has increased exponentially (with genuine materials and 1:1 markings, stitching, hardware, etc). What’s your argument for or against replicas?

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

Does anyone have any advice for supporting and coping with someone going through withdrawal? My husband is trying to quit his weed addiction and he has been irritable and mean since he quit. His mood is erratic and he is constantly annoyed w me. I don't even know how to bring this up without setting him off. Just feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I'm emotionally exhausted at this point. Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there anything I can do to help myself cope?

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?