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Thank you both for the thoughtful replies. We don’t keep alcohol in the house and my husband typically hides a stash. In the past, pouring out bottles has never slowed him down. He said that he’s stopping after today and if he doesn’t then I’ll decide what to do after that. It’s hard to trust what he says since I hear a lot of denial and rationalization going on. I hate being back here. I’m trying to show him love this time, but it’s hard because I feel like I’m enabling.
You may need to make a difficult decision. Most addicts or alcoholics need to hit a bottom in order to change. Trust your gut. 🙏
Hi OP, this is one of the most difficult situations you will experience. I too went through this, and I am a recovering addict, clean multiple years. I too had a young child who had to endure the disfunction of our family unit. I stayed in the marriage longer than I should have, trying to fix him and believe his promises, and worried about the effect a separation would do to our son. But i Was blind to the effect my husbands addiction had on our son. My boy didn’t talk about it until he was a teenager and it was ugly. I’m not saying your situation is identical. I’m just saying you need to listen to your gut. Yes, get support from alanon. But definitely come to terms with your own boundaries and stick to them. You are all in my prayers. 🙏
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Also about your situation. Jfc that sounds hard. I still recommend reading the book if you can or checking out a virtual alanon meeting just to see how others are coping. I think you’re in a tough situation because if you make a boundary, it might back fire, but it also might be what you need to do for your sanity. You may need to do what’s right for you given the circumstances and be more firm and tough. It’s one thing to deal with an alcoholic but quite another given the situation. And you need to place your sanity first.
OP I am sorry you are going through this. My husband is an alcoholic too. I haven’t been through what you are going through so I don’t have a lot of advice except to do alanon, I am sure there is a ton of info there about how to deal with relapse.
Is there alcohol in your apartment? If so, pour it out or lock it away so he can’t get it. Take care of yourself and your son, that has to be your priority. Good luck. ❤️
I wouldn’t recommend controlling his alcohol. As a former active drunk, I could find booze in any situation.
Cont... exception of a week back in October. In the past, I have gotten very angry about his drinking, but I’m trying to be more supportive this time. With that said, I have a son and a full time job and now I’m trapped in an apt with him for the foreseeable future. Any advice? He doesn’t do meetings so that’s not probably going to be helpful.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you thought about checking out alanon or ACA? Those programs help people who are affected by alcoholics. I’m a member of AA so my experience is more around that, but I’d suggest reading the big book to understand what he is experiencing. It’s all old language and can be a little annoying, but the sentiment gets through and it’s very helpful.