I’m working through trauma therapy right now and its bringing up a lot for me. I’m afraid that I might have a flashback at work. Any suggestions for how to cope?

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Let somebody you trust at work know about the therapy, so you have somebody who will cover for you if you need to take a break

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Thank you both for the advice. Meditation has been recommended to me before, but I’ve always made excuses as to why it wouldn’t work or why I didn’t have time for it. I think it’s finally time to give it a go. I really like the idea of reminding myself that I am with new people in a new place, different from when the trauma happened. I’m thinking of you both and hope that we will all overcome these issues in time!!

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I’ve been going through trauma therapy as well. What I’ve been working on is when it does come up for you or when you feel off like it might come - excuse yourself take a break and go somewhere quiet. Sit with the feeling you are having. Be with it. Allowing yourself to have this feeling is the most important thing. Another thing that could help... Take some deep breaths and bring awareness to what is around you. Maybe you are in a conference room with others. Examine the facts. I am sitting in this room with new people. These people were not (hopefully) in the picture when the trauma happened. They are new. Then examine your senses - what are you hearing, seeing, feeling etc. I find it really helps to bring you back into the present moment. The most important thing you can do when trauma comes up is not feed into it or create new stories from it but look at the facts where you are now. I hope this helps.

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I feel for you :(
I've never gone through trauma therapy, but I've been working through a lot of my issues growing up a closeted gay man with a therapist and things have a way of coming up out of nowhere.

Have you tried meditation in addition to therapy? Some forms of meditation can help tease out reactions that would otherwise be simmering under the surface, threatening to boil over at inopportune times.

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7 years later and I still have the occasional flashback (about one or two a month). The bathroom is my friend - cry, wash my face, breathe and return. There is a video - google “Just Breathe video” and it will come up. It’s meant for kids (son inherited depression from me - his doctor showed it to him, then we watched it together a few times. A lot of meditation in breathing, but this is something you can do almost any time, any place and it really does help. Not a cure, but it helps

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