Is it weird if the guy that I've been seeing for a few months randomly asked me for some of my Adderall? I disclosed to him when we initially started talking that I have ADHD and take Adderall. Fast forward to recently where he told me he is having a "creative block" and asked me for my medication. I feel like that's a widely inappropriate ask and it has been bothering me ever since.

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Hard nope, would not be interested in continuing to date that person

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Also there are things you might not know like a history with addiction and it’s not fair to you to potentially be the one to trigger a relapse

Your medication is counted and if you give it away, you will not have for yourself. Just tell him that.

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Yeah I shut him down immediately and said no because I needed it for myself

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Honestly I do think it’s inappropriate. He should NOT be asking for your meds for a creative block. Maybe I’m paranoid but keep an eye on your meds

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This definitely crossed my mind more than once. I feel that the trust has been broken and I just can't get past him even thinking this was an appropriate ask.

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It's VERY weird. I am open with friends, family, and coworkers about my AuDHD and that I need medication. NO ONE has EVER asked me for medication and I have never asked anyone for medication. Personally, I would not keep someone in my life who thinks that is an appropriate thing to ask. Not only because it feels like they're diminishing my need for it, or treating me like a transaction, or the risk to you if you gave them any amount of a controlled substance, but also because if they have a genuine need for it they both can and should go to a medical professional about that instead of trying to take advantage of their relationship with you.

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I'm so sorry anyone would think that was an acceptable thing to ask of you. You are not a transaction or a convenience and deserve not to be treated as such by anyone.

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Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond to my post. We broke things off and I've learned from this experience to be careful who I mention about my Adderall medication.

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I’d say no as you need it and also not comfortable given the controlled substances law. If he reacts poorly or pesters then that’s the end of the road if he waves it off then maybe it’s something you can overlook. Watch out for him just taking them though.

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That is highly inappropriate. I’d lock up your meds and not tell him where they are. He may not stop at asking next time… When I was in college I made it a point to not tell anyone I had Adderall and beyond that I kept it locked up and hidden should my roommate get any ideas…

Inappropriate but not surprising. I hear a lot of college students and young professionals are taking it now for performance. There is a street price for it

Your intuition is telling you all you need to know, and now with the help of many comments you can affirm your gut was right all along 💜 take a deep breath and do what your gut tells you to do - this was absolutely a red flag on so many levels.

If he were to have an unknown underlying heart condition, take one of your meds and fall ill, you would be held responsible.

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