I’ve relived the same day over and over in my head thousands of times.

I’ve asked myself why I let her get on that train and didn’t stop her.

I see her life now and think to myself “it didn’t need to be this way.”

Almost 10 years ago now. The answer was yes, I do still love you though you’re no longer young

Do you think it’s worth waiting for Black Friday sale for strollers etc.? Or generally there are no discounts on baby stuff. Wondering if I should buy now or wait - baby is due in Jan.

Anyone else have their parents and tias try to set you up with everyone?

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

I have strong feelings for my friend who also happens to be my superior at work. We also flirt with each other sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭

I love living in Miami, but have found it incredibly difficult to make friends. I had a thriving social life/ friend group in Chicago. Anyone else finding it hard to build friendships here?

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

Ladies: (no wrong answer) When considering the finances of a potential boyfriend, which is more important to you:
A. his current income;
B. his current debt;
C. his current savings;
D. his current investments

Keep in mind, I am not excluding all the more important factors in picking a partner, I’m just curious about this specific consideration.

Day 27 of 31: I miss my wife.
(We're not separated or anything. I've been on an extended work/family obligations trip).

Anyone in late 20s-early 30s in nyc looking for friends?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Alright I’m calling it on my career at the ripe age of 28. Who needs a handsome house husband

My boyfriend just came out to his mom and she’s been horrible to him... he’s no longer allowed to go home... I’m traveling for work. I want to be there for him. Any partners with advice?

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

I'm planning to move with family to Kochi inorder to join in one of the company in infopark. Please suggest good place to get a flat or house to stay with small kids.

About to have a difficult conversation with my parents about treating my wife with respect. Please send advice and good vibes.

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Any tips on helping my remote bond/feel more connected with each other?

Steel Case vs Herman Miller

Is Herman Miller the undeniable winner in the office chair market or is Steel Case a contender for first?

I had HR round long before and last Tuesday my HR sent me this link to feed my present employer data for Background Check.
When can I expect Offer letter mailed to me??

Any other 60 yr old unemployed life long techies out there? I have to admit, being unemployed at 60 is a bit expressing. I've started a couple business that went no where. And freelance isn't as easy as I thought it would be. I welcome your comments

What is everyone’s thoughts about Hilton? Just got asked to interview

What's the average salary of a data architect at Visa?

Hi,
I have an interview with paytm for mobile application automation profile. Can someone help in telling me what questions can be asked? I hv 5 years of experience and 2 years into Appium.

How is BNY (Pune ) in terms of work culture , YOY growth and Bonuses.
Are there additional rewards or incentives for employees?

Thoughts on Facebook. Would you work there if you could work on something interesting or just pass altogether?

Hi Fishes,
Please suggest a good project for java and spring boot developer in ibm ..Am looking for good tech stack and WLB

Is it a viable option to make a move from big4 audit to big4 corporate finance division?

Need some advice.I’m on the backside of my career having spent 35 years in healthcare focused on the delivery of care and the insurance of it in business Felipe my for disruptive companies. I am looking to create a side huddle that could grow into a part-time gig in 5 years earning 60k where. I am not a licensed medical professional but I know the healthcare ecosystem, motives, thinking, and challenges that exist. I’m wondering how to parlay this knowledge into a side gig. Looking for ideas.

Is the firm 401k matching pre-tax? I’ve been contributing to the Roth 401k, was wondering if the firm contribution portion is also Roth or not.

I wish I wasn’t adaptable. Humans aspire for a greater level of comfort and once achieved, adopt that as their new baseline. Because of this, somebody making $100k cannot simply comfortably revert back to a $50k lifestyle. The slow growth of personal wealth isn’t noticed as ideated. Instead, we are never satisfied.

Can you relate? Has your salary / net worth growth dramatically improved your quality of life?

What’s the A/S/L of Fs in here? Better yet, any Fs in the Charlotte/NC area in here?

Im thinking of taking up MBA soon.. or should I focus on gaining other Finance certifications and leaning new language instead?

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Alright it’s been 21 days of no contact. Fastest and longest few weeks since lockdown 😞 I know it’s not an exact science but I’m curious on the statistics…who’s heard from their ex after a breakup and how long after?

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.