Married Christians, how did you meet your spouse and at what age? I'm 24M and have never been in a relationship before. I don't mind singlehood, but I sometimes have doubts that it'll never happen for me. Besides praying and trusting God's timing, what advice would you give to me and other Christian singles? Thank you, and God bless!

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23. Keep praying, keep trusting, keep attending a faithful, biblical church, and hopefully one that intentionally supports strong marriages and families, including clear and unapologetic support for masculine men and feminine women. Keep focusing on becoming the man God made you to be. Focus on your mission, get better at your craft(s), study and know the Word, get physically stronger.
Then, find a single girl your age at the church that you’re attracted to, and ask her on a date.

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I am searching for a congregation that is close to home but it’s been a challenge. I’m praying for direction and comfort.

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I am in a similar boat OP. I would ask you, what are you doing to find a companion? God cannot guide a parked car. A spouse is not going to fall out of the sky from God. You have to take steps on your own and put yourself out there, and pray that God be with you as you take these steps to meet someone.

Bible did not say you must get married. The concept that you must be married by X and have Y number of kids is made by the secular society. Walk your life at your own pace, and if God’s plan is you marry much later or not at all, still take it as a gift because it happens for a reason.

I have a different take from this. The bible encourages marriage for most single people who have the desire to. We get married less and later today because of societal shifts that have disincentivized marriage and family while incentivizing education, career, global mobility, and casual relationships. The church has not been unaffected by these societal trends, except perhaps the Amish and others that remain segregated.

Yes, we ought to wait on God's good timing, but we should also understand why we find ourselves in this historically unprecedented situation. I say to OP to wait but wait actively. Pray and be honest to God about your desire for a spouse, continue to be social, look your best, eat well and stay active, and cultivate true inner kindness and gentleness. These should increase your chances of finding a spouse. I'm doing the same.

OP, you're in the advantaged position as a man in the Church - more women attend christian churches than men. I agree with the first commenter - if/when you notice a single lady you like at your church, ask her out!

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