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AlAnon- look for meetings near you on google. It’s support groups for family members of addicts.
As a recovering addict myself, I recognize how frustrating it must be for loved ones to look on as the person dealing with addiction seemingly-irrationally destroys/places at risk their health & relationships. I can’t claim to know what it’s like being a family member, I can only assume it’s riddled with feelings of despair, heartbreak, helplessness, frustration. Your feelings are valid.
What I can speak on is the perspective of the addiction. Yes, drug abuse is irrational because it places at risk your relationships, reputation (although that can be salvaged upon recovery), and health; there is a kernel of awareness of this truth that lies within every addict - any external circumstances that may constitute rock bottom tend to coincide with an internal exhaustion and inability to any longer ignore that kernel of awareness. I realize I’m rambling a bit, but I just wanted to reassure you that from the perspective of the addict, it’s not so much that the implications of behavior are ignored (rather, they are rationalized to avoid having to confront the state of one’s addiction), but substance is used in a futile attempt to self-soothe and emotionally regulate.
I realize I answered your question in the first paragraph, but one piece of advice that is difficult to accept but in some ways liberating, is that you can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to do (“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.”…these are timeless sayings and maxims for a reason, and that reason is they’re true). You need to make sure you’re looking after you; you also need to take a hard look at whether or not you’re behaviors - that no doubt come from a place of love - are in fact enabling her drug addiction. I’d recommend talking to a therapist (bonus points if they’re versed in family dynamics) about these topics.
I realize I’m just a stranger, but if you ever want to DM me I’d be happy to answer any questions you might have about resources for loved ones, or even answer questions that you maybe haven’t either asked or been able to solicit an answer from your daughter regarding anything to do with addiction or the perspective of an addict (esp in relation to a parent/caretaker).
You are a warrior. This isn’t easy. Not sure if you’re religious, quite frankly not sure if it matters…but I am definitely spiritual, and of the belief that the universe is careful only to give us challenges it knows we can handle. You will get through this. ❤️
I am in Canada I will look into AlAnon or similar Thank you My spiritual believes is what gets me through 🙏
Rising Star
Al anon https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/find-an-al-anon-meeting/
Al Anon - sort of a support group for everyone
Hope For Families Recovery Center (864) 906-2395. Look them up on YouTube and call and get an appointment with Campbell. She works with parents.
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