My husband quit cold turkey in 2017, stayed sober for 5y, then thought social drinking was ok. On Jan 2 he checked himself into rehab, spent there 2 weeks, detoxed, and started therapy. I'm happy and proud of him, but he is being such a dick now. Not abusive, just 100% emotionally unavailable and 0% empathy. And since I'm the closest person, it kinda lands on me often. Any advice on survival strategy for me is appreciated.

At my uncles wedding in Madrid I remember lying down on the grass in the courtyard after their first dance and crying, my Dad came and saw me, laid down in his suit beside me and asked what was wrong.

“I know my boyfriend wouldn’t dance with me like that at our wedding”

And we just lay there as I cried, and then got up. Had a drink.

Said boyfriend left years ago, and now I have a wonderful man who just asked me what type of dance lessons I want for our wedding next year.

Don’t give up.

IFV recommendations in Boston anyone? A Reproductive Endocrinologist the most - but reccs on any and all members of a health team/other tips welcome. Wide and I are about to begin this journey =/

Best recent healthcare books related to improving our broken system? Atul Gawande’s books are a bit dated now I think.

Just finished An American Sickness again. Thank you!

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

I don't get how people can be so lax about getting covid. Like whenever I talk to those "I'm YoUnG aNd HeALtHy" people they say it'll just be a cold, but I have a cold right now and I'm miserable 🤒 like do people like getting sick?

Workout before (4:30 am) or after (6:30ish) work?

Anyone have any tips how to stay full between meals?

Have you ever felt uncomfortable treating a patient? I don't feel unsafe, and the patient isn't making me uncomfortable physically or anything, I am just seriously disturbed by the discussions we're having about what they're going through. I've been working at this hospital 4 years and this is the first time this has ever happened. Is it wrong to consider asking for a transfer?

Y'all. I need some strength training programs to do at home, given that gyms are closed indefinitely in NYC. Any full body workout programs? Any reliable apps to use for routines?

How do you guys deal with just the really bad days? One small thing happens and it seems as if everything is terrible. I have bad anxiety and suck at compartmentalizing everything. Would love advice.

I’m so scared to let a relationship that gives me anxiety go because I’m 36 F and feel like I’m not going to find anyone else. He’s not a horrible person, but he can be inconsistent. When I bring it up to him he says he’ll try harder but then always goes back to default. I stick around because I think it’s more a personality trait and not that he’s not interested in me (maybe I’m naïve). Could really use some encouragement from a bunch of strangers.

Today I F'd up by getting a small Caesar Salad at lunch to save for when I got hungry again at 5pm. That shit gets soggy..*facepalm*.. Oh well, I tried being healthy. Maybe next year.. Pizza time.

Fellow fasting fish, how do you maintain energy when we can’t have coffee or water? I’ve been cracking windows, showering first thing, and using certain essential oils 😅 trying not to yawn on these morning video calls!

Did yall hear about the Chicago mom who had her kid taken away because she wouldn't accept that her child was transgender? As a parent, that's actually kind of scary that the government would that with no basis of abuse or neglect. Smh

Got the second moderna shot yesterday around 5pm est. All day, my body is in such pain, I am crying as I can’t get comfortable, and i have a fever. Took Tylenol but only helps moderately. Feels like the flu with the body pains. Grateful to get it but this feels awful rn. 37 female 🐠

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

Can someone recommend good books on Vedic Astrology?

Started vyvance. I’m eating a lot, super hydrated, no caffeine and I still feel super weird. I’m calm and my brain feels great but physically my eyes are soo dry and my body just feels disassociated. It’s only been three days. Does this pass?

Anyone know anything about this senior director role in cyber in Toronto?

Does anyone else constantly put off putting their time in as they go and then hate their life at the end of the month? Then once you get caught up, you don’t want to enter more time, and so you fall behind again. It’s a vicious cycle.

Should I expect any specific questions during an introduction call with a recruiter? I have a call setup with a BSG recruiter and just wondering if I should prepare for any interview type questions?

Thanks in advance!

Are you or did you make any 2022 resolutions? If so, please share!

Mphasis can give permanent work from home..
Pls help..

Trying to find freelance job or full time job I’m a draftsman Cad drafter and 3D visualizer

Spotify has a couple of really interesting remote first-positions open. What’s their salary range at Director level in EU?

Would you say being a partner is more demanding than being an industry exec?

Happy with hikes this year?

What can be maximum pay that can be offered when I am switching from Dara Engineer III at Walmart to Data Engineer II at VMware ?

Anyone went to the Propel program before? How was it?

For someone earning 11 LPA fixed in India, is 50K Euros in Germany a good package?

Numbeo says it will be equivalent to my current salary, however tax deduction will be higher. Thoughts?

What’s the best way to transfer from M&A FDD to consulting? What’s most transferrable skills that I should be working on and pitching?

I have 2.5 years of experience in Managed Services Operations. I am currently pursuing MBA - Distance Degree. I want to switch to Management Domain. I am really looking for referrals. Please suggest

What is the experience required to become senior manager in US taxation

Bench ka Kya system hain bhailog capgemini mein?

Anyone play fantasy football? Would anyone be interested in a bowl / mini league? I’m guessing there are some good data analysis skills being put to good use out there.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Has anyone tried using Kratom to help with an addiction to opiates? Does Kratom itself get addictive if you start using it for a while?

I am sex addict. I have to continue to remind myself that I am always in recovery. Had a major acting out a month ago, lost my fiancé and just taking one day at a time. That’s all I can do. Just remind myself so I don’t stop working

For everyone in recovery, please reach out and stay in touch with your people. Isolation is a killer.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.