Should I offer to split the bill on dates? A lot of my friends say they don’t offer when it’s dinner. I don’t want to be with someone who would take me up on splitting anyways but I’m trying to be polite?

How do you know that this is your person? Can you choose someone even though your ideals, philosophies, and lifestyle are very different or are you essentially settling?

Family member saw me working out hard and called me a "retard" for pushing myself being at max speed and "making faces". Seriously? When you push hard, it's supposed to be - hard. No?

I deeply miss my ex. The breakup was initiated by me 5 years ago because I was scared to commit. Since then, I’ve gotten married and have a daughter. I’m so embarrassed to admit it but I think about my ex everyday. I am so sad that I walked away from him. Life is ok now - I’m thankful for my family but my heart hurts. How do I move on?

Only for men:

How do you deal with a best friend breakup?

I know friendship breakups between men are not talked about openly, but I had to.

Best friend was a Male too

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

Best divorce lawyer in NYC?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Does anyone have experience or know of someone who went on a FWA (part-time) but didn't have kids? I'm unmarried and no kids but considering a move to 30 or so hrs/week for my sanity.

Taking family trip to Chicago mid-September. Any family friendly recs good for an 18 month toddler (things to do, non fancy lunch spots, etc)? Also thinking residence inn downtown for space. Others?

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

Deeply afraid of being married to someone like the girl in sex/life on Netflix

It’s been 3 years since I (27F) moved to Seattle and still don’t have a solid social circle. Not necessarily a big group… I’m talking 3-4 friends who are easy going and not flakey/ hard to make plans with.

Idk if it’s due to Covid, Seattle freeze, a combination of the two or other factors. Any transplants out there who are NOT the outdoorsy type and feel the same? And if so, how did you get past it?

If at all, how do you guys manage romantic relationships in IB? It’s easier if your s/o is in the industry bc they have an innate understanding someone outside wouldn’t but I don’t think that means you have to find someone in the industry. Curious to hear some thoughts.

Not to get philosophical... but why is life unfair? In both the micro and macro ways? My example - One of my parent’s is somewhat recently deceased, and the loss has made my living parent unstable...

I 130 bona fide marriage - got married to a US citizen last weekend. What do submit in 130 to prove bona fide marriage? We met during corona and didn’t travel anywhere.. also didn’t take pics as we were not thinking about immigration stuff.. open a joint account??

Stupid Question- We have been thinking for IVF and trying to understand with this process, is there any difference in the health and life of the child as compared to a child born without IVF. I did ask this with our doctor and he said casually its all same. This is not to question any doctor but just to really understand what is going to be different with the kid. This is not very old technology and not much studies as well.

My uncle I met a week ago suddenly died. He hid his heart condition from his wife, my aunt. He was having tea in the morning when he had a stroke. She did not have a last word or consider the possibility that he’d pass away so suddenly and soon. She is beating herself up over how he left and they didn’t have a chance to talk that morning. Fishes, sharing this so you call your loved ones today and not take people for granted.

I feel stuck. This job is hard. Feels like lots of people piling on while I’m away from home and my SO. It would be nice to feel more supported and have less toxic clients.

^ when you accidentally make a post using the name of your very small boutique firm and someone else from your very small boutique firm up votes the post

Anyone working at Levy Ratner? How is the office culture and about how much do you get paid?

Any Punjabi guys here? 26F, west coast

Any book recommendations for someone who worries way too much about work? Have already read The Subtle Art...looking for other good ones? Specific to consulting would be awesome!

How is IBM GBS Nordcloud division.
How is IBM these days in terms of job security.
Is offered ctc is too high as per current market ?

Role: Infrastructure specialist Azure
YOE: 7 years 9 month
Offered CTC: 17 LPA.
Skill: Azure ,devops,linux ,kubernetes.

Is it possible to work in big tech without moving to California? I hoping to move to the east coast.

Annual review coming up. Looking for suggestions for asks…

8 YOE, Current 125 base, TC ~140.

Median base for my title/geo ~170 (mean ~166, 0.75 ~226).

Certs: CIPM, M365 Security Admin/Architect, AWS SOA, AN, & Security.

Vet, Inactive TS.

Highlights of the year: flew out on 12hr notice to evac E Europe-based employees & families, plugged 3 exposures before they became breaches, built TVM/privacy program from scratch, onboarded new CNAPP.

(-) Still a student (GIB: BA/MS expected ‘24)

Got offer supervisor associate,rank 64 for CT practice. can soneone help me understand the salary bracket and yoe for this designation?

Hi everyone,
How and who decides rating ?

I have done a certification this time and missed on mandatory badge, will it have any impact on the rating?

In IBM how good is the BCBS project for business analyst?

How long do fed agencies give for maternity leave? does it matter if you take leave within your first year? does it vary from agency to agency? Specifically interested in SEC/CFTC.

Do you drink at holiday parties? This is the first company I've worked for that does a real holiday party and I'm kind of anxious about letting my guard down around my co-workers like that...

Hello Folks,
Good Morning.

Can anyone help me as to how can I start having experience in SAP. All my professional years I haven't got a chance to have a hands on experience but want to get an understanding of SAP.
Can anyone please help me with the same ?

When will they publish Nov Visa? Does it make sense to down grade from EB2 to EB3?

What is comms planning

Folks, AC Kolkata employee here.
Will management approve my request to buyout half my notice period if i promise to serve the other half? Also, any idea how it will get calculated?

Need ur urgent help and advice on this.

is it wrong or normal to re-develop feelings for someone you liked in the past but currently are happy and committed to someone else? I think it’s normal but 100% hurts your s/o?

Has anybody working in ubs worked from India being a ux designer. Is there a trick to it

Anyone else feel like quitting their jobs to start an OF page?

Me and my partner are not sure whether we want to have kids . Sometimes we want to and the next day we are completely against the idea . The reason we want to have kids is that we want to grow our inner circle , have more people in this world who we can call our family. And we don’t want to have kids is that it will put extra pressure on us , less freedom for next 10-15 years. Wanted to understand why people have kids or don’t have kids . Please share your thoughts :)

It grinds my gears that my manager always uses smiley faces and explanation points in his emails.
ae. Hey! The report looks great :) let’s add x and y to the slide! If any edits need to be made I’ll do them tonight :) Let me know if any questions!

Smfh

Inebriated thought...What if rhinos are simply unicorns that let themselves go?

Why did I just listen to that Jeffrey Bezos song. Stuck in my head. 🤦‍♂️

I lie to my girlfriend every time we make plans — I always tell her to be ready an hour before I want her to be and she’s still normally running 15-30 minutes late

Book recommendations, fishies? Looking for something light, but intellectually engaging—a satire, maybe? Or anything really engrossing! Please help ya chiefy, thank youuuu🤗😘

My mom says to marry a man who loves me, not a man who I love. Happily married wives: thoughts?

Had a full on panic attack at work today because of all the social media coverage of Ukraine. I’m on a 24 social media (Instagram, Facebook and Twitter only) time out. 25% of my job is social media 🥺 I’m feeling Burt out. Just needed to get this out into the world.

I’m a closeted no book reader. I’ve maybe read 5 books over the last 10 years… My teams over the years are always talking about all the books they read and providing recommendations, but luckily people tend to be more interested in sharing what they read rather than listening so I’ve made it this far. I’m worried I’ll be discovered one day

Rant: my boyfriend is so annoying with this diet! I GET IT. You want to eat healthy! But when you have your friends at our place every other weekend they order pizza and you devour most of 2 boxes! But when I want pizza or wings or burgers I have to hear a whole spiel. “Can we pick something healthier?” “You can order ___ but can I choose something else on the menu?” “I don’t knowwww” like MY GOD. Then if I order something for me he wants half or bites! Sick of it!!!

Ugh. I was stuck on a call and forgot to buy my Powerball tickets online. Now I’m hoping there’s no winner so I could win on Wednesday. I could’ve been an almost billionaire.

When I have more salsa then I do chips, I always pour the crumbs in and eat it up Ethiopian food style

Guy stood me and my friends up (he’s with his friends), then texted us 3 hours later to come to a different bar where he and his friends are, and apologized profusely. Said no. Do I forgive him tomorrow?