With all the demands and social expectations, I find it hard to say no during the holiday season, which just ends up overwhelming me. How do you set boundaries with family and friends to manage your energy levels and ADHD symptoms?

Need advice from fellow female 🐠. How do you manage the crazy travel schedule ( 2-3 cities a week) and yet look fresh and healthy. I’ve been getting tired so easily; weekends are a waste. Any guidance

Anyone with stage IV endo and recurring Endometriomas gone on Lupron after egg retrieval? I’m still on birth control but my doc said after egg retrieval (assuming we get a strong embryo), I’d get off of birth control and on lupron for two months before transfer. The reason I’m not getting off of birth control now is because it manages my pain.

I was recently hired at JP Morgan Private bank and randomly selected for a drug screen before I start. What are they testing for? Will THC be an automatic fail or cause an offer to be rescinded

What would you do if you didn’t need money? I have a fair amount coming one day and don’t actually need to work to live a good life (middle / upper-middle class). I work because of this vague notion of “ambition” and because everyone I grew up around is highly competitive and hard driving. I just feel unhappy so often and am wondering what this is all leading to. Scared I’m wasting my life being unhappy / in turmoil cause it’s what my culture wants me to do.

Hooked up with my ex today. Something about the holidays really tends to bring out my self-destructive tendencies.

Yet another friend/colleague got engaged this weekend. It’s become impossible to celebrate people’s relationships. I’m a POC woman and I’ve been single since coming to the US 10 yrs ago. A handful of men have been interested but they were not Christian or back in my country. So many childless, single women in my church and I’m terrified I’ll be them soon. My non-Christian family doesn’t understand why I’ll only date Christians, or the dating scene in big cities, so they put pressure on me

Happy fly day. Did you work out this morning?

Looking for face lotion recommendations. I feel like I can’t even wash my face because my skin is so dry. Maybe I need to start having a skin care routine or whatever. Idk where to start

Hi Fisher,
Please help in suggesting which is the best offer to choose and which company is best in terms of

1) Career wise
2)WLB
3) Appraisal
YOE - 4.7 years as Oracle Scm cloud functional consultant current ctc 12.7 L

Deloitte - 16 Fixed + 10% Variable + 2L
joining B
IBM -16.7 Fixed + 15% variable + 1.6L JB
Inspirage - 18 Fixed + 1L JB
Deloitte @IBM @Inspirage

Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

Question: I am pro choice but only up to the end of the 2nd trimester. I think after that, it's getting to gray territory that I can't support. My friends say this a really anti feminist view. What am I doing wrong?

anyone here in the midtown east area looking for a gym partner? I’m finding it very difficult to physically motivate myself every morning to go to the gym and think that if I have company, it’ll help. Prefer if my gym buddy would be F since I’m F but I’m also open.

How do I breakup with my therapist? I’ve yet to find a new one but I don’t feel like I gain anything from these appointments and I dread going and paying for the sessions

Any good grief counseling in Chicago or remote? My dad has late stage cancer and is dying. Need help to process this.

I started an antidepressant treatment for my generalized anxiety disorder and it’s been life changing! It’s only been a week and I already feel so much better, any other fish in the same bowl? 😏

Just got made redundant today, it comes by surprise I didn’t really see it coming. Now I’m lost. And I’m on Singapore with working visa until christmas. I can’t go back yet. I am depressed.

I got offer letter from Virtusa. I never heard about company's name. Can anyone tell me about company? Work culture or WLB
I have another offer from IBM of 19
Virtusa giving 24 lpa
Choosing virtusa is over IBM good or not?

How do I easily find any cells that are hard coded vs formula? I have 10,000 rows of data and column F is supposed to be a formula based on columns C and D, without clicking into all 10k cells in column F how can I make sure formulas are there and not accidentally hand keyed over?

Birthday dinner in Philly with a small group of girls?

Best cash back card to use in conjunction with CSR? Thinking about freedom unlimited (1.5%) but not sure if other cards are worth it. Don’t spend enough on groceries for the blue

What is the tipping etiquette on the free platinum breakfast in a JW Marriott? The server just gets coffee / orange juice and you serve yourself. It is an overpriced buffet that I would never dine in.

Thoughts on the new Chase Freedom Flex?

Part of PwC deals with an accounting background. I’m currently pursuing a MS in data analytics. PwC deals has a data analytics group but I don’t want to put all my hope in an internal transfer. Has anyone here pivoted into a data analyst role from big 4? What did you do in order to make it happen?

Who is the main contact for Ogilvy recruiting?

Once i withdraw resignation, are there consequences?

Best Bumble/Hinge Profile Intro- GO

Considering that the end of this year will probably signal the start of a recession, is this a bad time to jump into a new role in Pharma?

Been waiting years to buy a SS Daytona & it finally came. Black dial from AD @ retail. Given today’s environment is it still a good idea? Thoughts? How did Rolexes perform in 08-09? Daytonas 08-09?

Anyone know how much a full time nanny in the Austin area would cost?

Probably a long shot
Anyone have 2 tickets to game 7? Want to take my wife but stub hub fees are insane!!!
Anyone want to help a fish out?

How is Booz Allen cyber strategy and risk management consulting? Got a recruiter inquiry

Thoughts on Dentons? (I.e. pay, culture, perks, etc.)

Anyone have any insight into Davita? Specifically the FA role? Whats it like long term, turnover rate, do you make your own hours, salary range etc? Anything would be helpful 😊

Does anyone else here work at a hotel front desk? How long did it take to get a promotion?

I am 7 yoe as TechnoFuntional Consultant working with SAP ABAP and SAP SD. I started as ABAP extensively working with SD, so certified in SD. Is there a demand for this type of skill? What role should I look for?
Any inputs are helpful.

Anyone here struggle with drinking enough water every day? Growing up, I drank a lot of soda and fruit juices but since 2020, I’ve been trying to be one of those people who always has a water bottle. They say you drink some when you first wake up but I never have a taste for it and then never remember to start drinking until about noon.

Curious if any other neurodivergent recruiters or people operations have been put on a PIP and what was your outcome?

Hi everyone! What remote jobs are you working that you feel is good for your ADHD?

Anyone a manager? I’m recently diagnosed (26F) and I can’t help but beat myself up everytime I fall short of my to do list. Makes me feel like a huge disservice to my team. I’ve been trying vitamin D and working out, but it makes my “highs” and “low” SO extreme. The simplest things are so complex in my mind.

If anyone feels similar, how do you manage these feelings? I’m personally considering switching to an individual contributor role, but can’t help but feel like a disappointment if I do.

Anyone had luck finding a good therapist who actually understands ADHD? Getting advice like "try taking a walk every day" and "practice these breathing exercises" is driving me crazy. I need actual solutions and shit, not just platitudes and internet worksheets.

When it is not an urgent or time bound task, I tend to not finish tasks but my mind wanders to some other tasks. How do you stay on task ? Would love to hear your suggestions. Thank you!

For anyone who has a consistent exercise routine can you explain if it has helped you manage your ADHD symptoms and all the different ways it has helped?

My boss assigns projects with unclear expectations and provides no guidance on how to achieve them.

I've asked for help, and, to avoid a long post, she expects me to figure it out. Perhaps you go through this too, but when I don't have a clear guide on completing big projects, it paralyzes me because I don't know where to start. On top of that, I have anxiety, so "it has to be perfect".

How do you approach projects when your boss plays the "guess what's in my head" game?

So today was my first day on a stimulant (diagnosed as an adult), and everyone says its suppose to feel like *boom* magic, or normal (?) , I guess. Knowing that is figurative, what should I actually be expecting? I feel mostly the same, I think, though I came in and actually did started my work today. But I mean, somedays I do that...I just don't want to psyche myself out if I'm expecting too much. Or pscyhe myself in if I actually might not be experiencing what I should.

Does anyone with adhd ever feel like they just can’t wake up? I feel so lazy but I want to be so productive. Also, lately when I take my medicine I can’t even focus on work just other things.

Can you cut 18mg Delmosart (i.e. Concerta) to get 2x 9mg?

What are your best tools for self-motivation at work? There are days when it takes a huge amount of effort for me to get started and in the groove and I'm looking for ways to make work days easier.

Looking for a good playlist to keep me motivated this morning :( I usually listen to Ava Max or something #ADHD is real!!

How do you complete the last parts of slideware? Boring cleanup, numbers consistency, spelling etc (the ocd factors)?

My fellow ADHD professionals,
Have you told your employer about your ADHD diagnosis? If you have then how have it benefited you? If you haven’t then why do you think it was the right move not to tell? I’m contemplating if I should tell my employer or not.

I just started meds yesterday and the change in my focus and attention to detail is mind blowing. My only concern is, just yesterday I had a tough feedback session with my manager around how I’m taking too long to complete my work, giving them anxiety around close deadlines. I’m new in the job (3 months in). Should I explain anything about my adhd to my manager or just wait for them to notice the change in me?

Stimulants and sweating! I’m going back to the office and never used them while in the office, I don’t want to look or be sweaty haha any advice? I also don’t want to look weird drinking 6L of water as I do in person

What courses or certificates would you recommend for someone who wants to learn how software works from a top-down approach?

My main goal is to understand how everything is connected, and why something is needed where it is needed.