FTM of one month old twins. We currently have a baby nurse (24 hours), but I am DREADING her departure date (in about 6 weeks). I’m terrified of losing all independence and not being able to anything for myself bc I have to watch the babies and feed them all the time. My husband is taking leave after I take mine. What do other twin parents suggest? I’d like to be able to run to the grocery store and go to the doctor.

If you have an offer for a new position, would you wait to tell them you are pregnant (and due in May) until after you accept, so you don’t jeopardize the offer? If so, how long would you wait?

I think my parents need therapy but being Indian parents they don’t believe in therapy. Has anyone had any success in convincing their parents to go? Is it too late because of their age?

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Looking for emotional support after been laid off and second baby is on the way.

I want to give a Christmas gift to the manager of the gym I go to. She’s awesome and I just really appreciate her. I can’t think of any ideas though! Can anybody think any good ones? I do not know much about her personal life except that she’s a single mother.

About to take an offer at EY. Want a baby soon and saw the great news about increased parental leave. Question is, can u use vacation time consecutively with it? Right now most on leave take 5 months

I just started a new job 2 months ago, benefits and PTO don’t start until 90 days in so I still have a month before I can take off any time, and today found out my company doesn’t offer paid maternity leave.
I’m really struggling handling the symptoms and maintaining my full time job. Thinking about looking for a part time job to have more time to myself through the pregnancy since I won’t be getting a paid leave anyways, but lost on where to start looking. Any recommendations?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

I just started a new job and am about to be 36. I want to start a family but I feel like I should be waiting due to this new job. However I don’t want to miss out. I’m thinking about freezing my eggs

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

Any NYC 🐡 that would let me borrow their doggo for walks?! I am so missing my old guy, but can’t adopt a new one due to work ☹️

Hi, I’m pregnant and interested in lateraling in LA after my maternity leave. Would anyone know if any of these firms are supportive of new mothers and/or have a substantial representation of female partners? I’m in a specialty group in corporate. Latham, Gibson Dunn, White & Case, Mayer Brown, Troutman Pepper, and MoFo

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Do you ever get over an ex you loved?

What all vaccinations are you suposed to give your kid?

A child that kicked ,punched and spit at staff and students.He wanted was to go to the principals office. In the principals office he played with Legos, cars and toys. Rewards for bad behavior.

Looking for perspective: Did money play a role in evaluating whether someone could be your life partner?

If I get married to someone not a US national while my greenvard is processing, how does it impact my spouse’s ability to join me in the US?

My sister & I don’t get along because i feel she is extremely rude & prefers outsiders over family. My parents however, despite the fact that she disrespects them too, always say she is our daughter & we have to deal with it so just let her be. My mom thinks she is not in a good financial state so we should help her & I don’t want to given her disgusting behavior. Every time i buy something nice for myself, my mom kind of pushes me to buy for her too, and I don’t want to. Continued..

Which offer is better?
€100K per year in Netherlands (with 30% ruling) OR
45000 AED / month in Dubai?

For a family with a kid.
Tech stack: SRE/DevOps/ Cloud architect
People staying in Europe and dubai please comment.

My priorities: Long term stay, better education , quality life, location with better security, law n order and less hussels.

What has your experience been switching from on-premise solutions to SaaS software? Any regrets?

Someone jumped in front of my truck a few weeks back (trying to kill themselves, luckily it didn't work) and now I'm feeling so much anxiety. I don't want to leave a job I loved though. How can I cope with this?

Any thoughts on how the litigation going on between Twitter and Elon Musk is going pan out?

Which machine learning conferences are FAANG companies recruiting at ?

What are the hours like for a program manager in the Bay Area?

How to approach re-negotiating the offer after initially accepting the offer? Is it fine to re-negotiate with a counteroffer? If so, when is the best time to approach the company for re-negotiation?

Me 2 months ago: Finally got Hamilton tickets this year! What could go wrong?

😭😭😭😭😭😭

What kind of day rates are ACDs looking at for broadcast freelance in LA? Asking for myself

How long does it usually take to clear conflicts? Mid level. Around 50 client matters.

Currently in a committed relationship and just came to the realization that I have actually never been single in my life. Sometimes I wonder what the single life is like.. just dating and doing whatever I want without having to think about a partner. Any one else ever felt like this? Or been in this situation?

Does BOA provide welcome kit to new joiners?
If yes, what's that?

Does any one know what is the salary offered for AVP Middle Office role in Citi Belfast Northern Ireland?

Is there anyone or do u know anyone in Bofa who didn't recieved Return to office mail yet

I need 11 likes to DM someone. Please help out with some likes. Thanks in advance

Moving from Deloitte to Keste Consulting. Thoughts ? Yay or nah

Moving to Dallas after busy season. What firm has the best office in Dallas?

Anyone that might be able to provide a referral for a job posting? I have resume, and job In hand . Thanks everyone!

Biglaw parents, where do you choose to live and why? Somewhere close to work to avoid commute and spend more time with kids? Suburbs?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

I work as of counsel at a small firm directly with 1 other attorney. I have worked w/ the other attorney for the last 10 years. How much paid maternity leave is reasonable to request?

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

NDAs for Nannies? I was wondering how everyone who is doing some work from home during covid handles in-house caregivers? Obviously we all take all steps to protect confidential information and realistically a caregiver isn't going to be exposed to anything we do, but does anyone require an NDA just to be on the safe side? (I dont have an in home caregiver yet, but just thinking about it.)

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

What's the hardest part of being a working parent in law? My wife and I are considering trying to get pregnant.

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

Has anyone taken on side gigs here? In transactional real estate and could really use the extra money. I’m in-house and drowning in bills. Where did you post and what kind of insurance did you get?

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

Curious to know what the norm is — does your firm prorate your bonus for time that you are out on paid parental leave?