Hi everyone! Last January we had a book club for “Calling in the One”. The premise is we go through 7 weeks of chapters and exercises to identify and overcome blocks in relationships and dating, and to heal. Although the premise is about “finding a partner”, I actually found the lessons of the book very useful for all aspects of life and whatever you want to achieve, regardless of if you are looking for a relationship or not. If you are interested you can PM me or join our group here: https://joinfishbowl.com/bowl_76i1dhz22f

Are text message breakups acceptable? Better than complete ghosting right

Any single lipstick lesbians here, what to chat 😉?

So any hot guys on here 👀?

Have someone ever found a date on Fishbowl ? Is Anyone up for a conversation? I'm straight boii.

Advice on dating someone long distance? Kinda big price tag just to see each other.

What are fun things to do for 2nd date in Chicago?

Any o y'all finna hook me up with a job?

My boyfriend is texting his best friend's girlfriend. He openly says "oh i texted her about x" to me and I believe him...but my concern is that they're going to start some sort of flirtationship. She's some sort of model and has even told her boyfriend that my boyfriend is funny whereas she says her boyfriend is obnoxious. Is this something to worry about? We're not in a great space right now so Idk what to think.

Stories of a Jax night out?

I'll go first: on a last night out for a navy guy I'd dated for like 6mo he dragged us to king street where i never enjoy, at the bar w the toss the ring game a couple was fucking in the bathroom and the guy in front of me in line was mad about it taking so long so he started banging on the door trying to break it down and started to fight them when they came out. So we escaped to kickbacks where a customer threw a drink at the waitress who subsequently pulled a 🔪

Any single female from Kolkata ?

Half the reason I work out is to make my ex jealous

So, how does a first timer go about getting involved in dating apps? How do I start and what’s a good one to use? Last time I dated, only Match existed!! 🙄 (long story, I’m not that old)

How do you casually date? Recently moved to a new city I didn’t know anyone in, met 2 girls I like and have gone on a few dates with but not sure I like them enough yet to like commit. Is it wrong to go on dates with both until I figure it out? Not sure what to do, getting into relationships makes me feel trapped and unsure for some reason

So...who is single and ready to mingle? ✍️

This seems like a relatively quite group.. I feel like stirring the pot a bit..I have always wondered if other fellow NB also struggle with personal relationships and dating as I do.. thoughts?

Anyone waiting for the 2nd season of indian matchmaking??

25 F in NYC. I was born in the US and raised between US and Middle East. Looking to meet people :)

In my opinion one of the worse things you could hear from someone when you are dating is ‘I usually don’t talk to someone like you’. It makes it seem like you are just settling for that person.

Single 24 year old here. Recently joined Hinge. I am barely getting any activity. I'm a former OKCupid user and I always got something there. Do people not use Hinge or is there something wrong with me? I'm a fit average height guy and I am not ugly. Looking for LTR especially now in the time of Corona. Didn't bother with human interaction before tbh but this loneliness is creeping up. 😔

Does anyone know when London on cycle will be? Have seen a lot of posts for the US…

Would anyone be willing to connect i am interested in strategy& at PWC and have found certain positions i am interested in. I am currently working at EY in Enterprise Risk but it is not exactly what im looking for

Anyone with US Trust as a PCA? Looking for additional details in terms of the culture, day to day type of things and how you’re doing there vs. what the recruiter stated was the average?

How is Knowledge management in PepsiCo ?

Thanks for setting this up!

Anyone hire aresume writer? Thoughts on doing so?

How many billable hours in a month does it take for you to think you are billing a lot?

Welcome to the office that perpetually has no internet.

So I finally got around to watching the Bear. Thoughts? They did get the frantic element right and the little details. But my family at Thanksgiving all seemed to think it was basically a documentary

What should a Cna/mht expected hourly pay/ yearly salary with 5 years experience in Delaware

I received an offer for a mid-large size consulting firm at $80k with a $10k signing bonus to be an associate consultant. Is this industry norm- high? Low? I have no clue as it is my first offer and unsure whether to accept it or negotiate

What do you guys think about future of NFTs on smaller chains? Thinking primarily about Avax and SOL. Do you they think will blow as well when people understands there are alternatives to high gas fees on ETH? Or will everyone stay on ETH because there where the mainstream is?

Any California workers comp adjusters on here? How much are you getting paid and what company? How many years of experience do you have? Im trying to get a gauge for the market value. Thanks

Gripe in here about Legal Assistants (more in comments)

How common is it for writers to go to the video shoot they co-wrote? If they aren’t invited, and the CDs go instead, is that a leadership perk or an insult?

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…