Hopefully this bowl thrives, I could use the perspective. Going through a divorce with two kids now.

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Divorced with two kids and our divorce was a long drawn out one lasting 2.5 years from initial separation. Happy to provide any perspective that would be useful.

Was the divorce in US or else where

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Mck1: any reason it took that long?

Combative spouse, complicated financials that needed to be unraveled, and my schedule were the main things that delayed it

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