How many points does this note from my (presumed alcoholic) mom get? I see some denial, deflection, ego, remorse... I harbor no resentment. Just sad. I didn't say a word about it today, not one word (progress for me) except when she started to tell me the same stories today "you told me that last night." She sent this note unprovoked. It was more than 4 drinks... I'd remember. I accept what I can't change. And she gets mean.

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Have you ever tried Al Anon? I suggest you do, it may be helpful.

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Family is so tough. We cant change ‘em and we can’t fix ‘em. I remember my days of blackout drinking; I almost always had good intentions, but the disease of alcoholism doesn’t care about intentions. It sounds like your mom cares about you and is fighting her own battle. I’m sure there’s a lot of shame and remorse and embarrassment. Sometimes (pretty much every time), the best we can do is to remember “patience, tolerance, kindness, and love”, and do our best to be the healthy example. And a little prayer never hurts; miracles happen alll the time.

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Thank you. I'm just trying to protect my own recovery and I don't want to play the game. I'll Def dig into Al anon

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