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Sometimes you don't have to say anything. You just have to listen.
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100% agree with this. People can tell when others are genuinely listening.
I worked at a hospice house for six years. One resource we found helpful was a book called Gone From My Sight by Barbara Karnes...also kind of referred to as the blue book. Do you have one of the blue books for a family? It gently walks through all the steps of nearing the end, going through the final stages and beyond when the patient has passed. I know you can get that online. That might help.
Sometimes it's good just to sit and be still with someone, hold their hand, hold them, and even allow yourself to cry with them if you genuinely feel that welling up inside (no fake crying, people can tell). Grief isn't easy. I lost my only sister on hospice in 2020. I stayed in hospice another 3 years and then had to take an emotional break. I am finding now, however, that I miss the level of compassion flowing in that area. I am hoping to get a job now in palliative care.
Praying for you as you work through this. ❤🙏❤
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I hadn't heard of that book. I will purchase one thank you for the suggestion and sharing your experience.
OP you are not the only person who doesn't handle grief well. In fact I think there are many of us who care but don't quite know what to say in those hard moments. I think the best you can do in those moments is let them know you are there if they need someone to talk to. Sometimes just offering support is more than enough.
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It's definitely tough. Do you remember the section in school on empatheti clistening? Just sometimes its about holding the space for them while they talk.
This might be an unusual response but I think you should be patient with yourself about this. Not everyone has the natural ability to comfort. It's good to learn how to do what you can, but just remember that it's okay to feel awkward, etc.
I took a class in college called on death and dying and it was amazing. I would look for something like that and/or find someone that delivers the news well. Talk to hospice nurses and see if they will let you shadow them for those hard times. I would also go on YouTube or TikTok and follow hospice nurses there.
Check to see if ur organization has In-Services on this. If not, u can suggest it. Otherwise, u'll want to research on ur own, to better urself.
Check out the Instagram channel called "emergencyresilience." Alex is a paramedic/PhD whose channel is all about how to communicate about death and dying. She is great! Hope this helps!
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You can take CEUS on that subject
Grief is tough no matter how you deal and I've read that we are pretty much imprinted with our first reactions as to how we deal with it. The best advice to learn healthier ways of coping is therapy. Even the healthiest people benefit from therapy and it's even ore successful when you go in to ot with a particular area to focus on like death and grief. Stay positive and give yourself the grace of "only being human" and remember it's a process so be patient!