I got married in October and I graduate in May. I added his name on so I have both(bc I share the same last name as my son and didn’t want to remove it completely). I can’t decide if I should just keep my maiden name on my diploma on add his on too. Thoughts?

Mid 40sF, recently separated, seeking intelligent convo. For the love of god, do not be dishonest. I don’t even care if you’re married and lonely. I get that. Looking for same age range.

Has anyone here completed their divorce without lawyers? It’s amicable between both of us and we are agreeing of the separation of assets. Do I still need to get a lawyer or can I do this on my own?

Appointment for marriage license seems unavailable on Project Cupid entirely. Anybody know why or have tips? We’re looking to get married early July… (finally pulling the trigger after waiting for pandemic to go away)

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Are there some in this group that are here to chat as well? I’m a married M, but wouldn’t mind a friend that’s here to chat

28,F divorced no child and no life , my marriage is nothing but a whole cheat drama, now parents are asking to marry anyone who can 'accept ' me but I never did anything wrong other than being innocent and naive and good to bad people, really wanted to live my life, somebody hold my hand when in distress and i ended up somebody who just need my money and body nothing else, just feel like committing suicide, never been a loser at any point of life , Life is bloody damn unfair

Anyone have advice on how to meet other Indian young professionals in the Chicagoland area ideally 1-4 years removed from undergrad. Looking for some Indian friends!

I moved to Philly from Chicago burbs for my current job in 2017. Love working for this company. They believe in employee growth and put in their time effort and money behind their current employees. 2020 has been though, I still have my job but have never missed my family this much. Since we’ve been working from home, I’ve stayed with family for couple of months. Now I don’t feel like living away from them. Just confused between family and career. Any advice?

How can I make friends in Chicago?

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

So let’s say if someone’s father / very close relative was very high up in the government of India in Delhi. How does that person go about leveraging his / her relationships, legally, to do something in India? Would you rather do that or stay in the US in consulting?

Getting about $2200 back from Federal and $1300 back from NY State. Claimed 2 for both last year and having 2nd kid this year. Should I bump to 3 or keep as is?

Any1 else receive purchase notifications from ur bank so u can take ur Friday frustrations out on ur spouse 4 spending money while u gouge ur eyes out on a beautiful Friday in mindless work? Just me?

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Hi Everyone,

I am working with a startup as a Business Development Manager and currently based in Delhi.

I am looking forward to make a transition from the Sales/BD role to Product Management roles. Also doing a certification from Institute of Product Leadership for a smooth transition. Can anyone help me with this.

YOE in sales& BD ~ 6 years

First-year tax staff that started end of Q3, and just had my first year-end performance evaluation meeting. Still a blank slate in terms of tax experience, but I honestly do have a slight interest in international tax. Brought it up and I was given some names to find some work opportunities in that area. Besides SALT, any other specialized areas I should try to get some experience in? Also open to any tips and tricks to help tailor my workflow and experiences for the months to come.

Anyone here done both international tax and M&A tax? Which did you find more interesting/enjoyable with better opportunities? JD/LLM.

Is the executive order from June impacting people who had an h1b stamped and moved jobs? Since the h1b would need an amendment if someone changes jobs, would that pose a risk? Any folks who have moved jobs on h1b in the last month or so?

How much should I invest in buying a HOME as my primary residence.

Current TC: 200k
Net worth: 300k, readily available 170k in stocks, hysa and cash
Current rent: 2000 per month
Age: 30

Wonder if anyone has any excel model or a rule to determine how much I can afford or should go for?

Can I bring my parents and sibling also in relocation reimbursement and also for the hotel accommodation?

Am I crazy for thinking that the level 1 certification is extremely, unspeakably hard? I’ve gone through the videos twice now and still can’t get through it. The jump from the video exercises to the exam is enormous

What are the chances of getting a lower offer because you're POC applying at a fairly large law firm? Not big law or anything but still. Friend and I both got offers, came out of the same school and have very similar internship experience. He's white and I'm not, his offer is significantly higher. How low is low enough to walk away?

First business trip in 20 months. TSA agent yelled at me for nonsensical reasons. I almost cried. I was worried things would change, but they are just as dehumanizing as always. Felt like home.

Any non-fiction book recommendations? I normally don’t like NF but recently read Bad Blood by John Carreyrou and loved the style/pace. Any similar recs?

Hi guys, I'm working as support engineer in Microsoft.

I have got offer from Disney as Cloud solutions Architect and as DevOps engineer 3 in Western Digital(which was Earlier SANDISK).

Is it a good option to switch to any of these companies?

Appointment for marriage license seems unavailable on Project Cupid entirely. Anybody know why or have tips? We’re looking to get married early July… (finally pulling the trigger after waiting for pandemic to go away)

How to resign from pwc…. Where is the option? I cant find it on workday

Anyone looking for a resource manager or creative recruiter?

Hi Fishes,

I am about to have HR discussion for Assistant manager Analytics.
I have 5.6 YOE , CCTC - 14 LPA

How much would you guys suggest I should ask?

Thanks

Dear Fishes,

Can you help me give a bit of description of EXL? How is it in terms of WLb Job security and Growth and hike?

YoE - 5 years

Any opening for QA automation engineer.
Skill - javascript/typescript
Cypress/protractor , API testing

Other tools -
Docker
Shell scripting
Jenkins
Linux

Experience 6.9 years


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Have you ever went for a job and new u we’re getting the job but then see the person they picked isn’t even better than you?

What is your total “wedding look” budget/est. spend? (Everything including dress, make up, jewelry, shoes, outfit changes, accessories, etc.). I have put so much emphasis on my looks (no regrets) and I actually just tallied up my spend and my head almost exploded. Frankly just seeking a little validation that I am not the only crazy person out there 🙃

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

Thoughts on inviting co-workers to your wedding? I joined a new team a year ago during the pandemic and haven’t met them in person - I’ve developed some cordial working relationships but not sure if I’d consider them wedding close! Any thoughts or advice?

We’re having a destination wedding and I feel selfish/silly for taking a honeymoon after. But I feel like if we don’t do it then we will put it off and it won’t really feel like a “honeymoon”. What would you do?

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

I just got engaged on Sunday (!!) and my ring is just a little big. I’m reading online that most jewelers won’t resize a rose gold ring. Has anyone had any issues with this? I could go back to the family jeweler who designed the ring and would do it for free but the ring was designed in Michigan and I live in Chicago. Is it worth it to drive to Michigan to get it taken care of there?

Thoughts on uneven bridal parties? I would have 5 vs my fiancé having 3 people.

Fun question: what are the best and the worst wedding trends you’ve seen?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

I thought I set some boundaries with my wedding since my fiancé and I are paying for everything. Now I’m getting more comments about why we didn’t invite some long lost cousin or family member… I don’t want to go bridezilla on people but I’m starting to see how it can happen 😂

Getting married in September, have a vax only policy for guests. My fiancé’s sister is bringing her unvaccinated spouse to the hotel where all the wedding festivities are being held b/c she is too scared to fly on an airplane without him. I find this incredibly uncomfortable and selfish given it will put me and my fiancé in an uncomfortable position (and it will also put my elderly parents and other vulnerable fam members at risk). Any ideas as to what (if anything) to do?

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.