I have a coworker who has been crabby every day for almost a month now. I know it's because he isn't happy with our new management, but he occasionally takes it out on me. Have you ever had an issue like this? Did you address it, and how?

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I used to work with someone who would use me as a sounding board for all his complaints. I guess that's the best way of putting it. For some reason he thought I would commiserate with him, but it really started to bother me. Someone with that kind of attitude just drags you down, if that makes any sense. I got to where I would just say there was nothing I could do about whatever that day's complaint was. Eventually the message was received and I had a lot less griping to listen to.

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Thanks for sharing!

I have before but you just have to be very careful about it to try and mitigate future issues.

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Thanks for sharing!

That's a tough situation. We have a couple of "debbie-downers" in our office space and I let them vent for about 15 minutes, then I start doing tasks that need to be done. I let them stay in my office as long as they need, but I can't get caught up in the negativity or else it starts to really get to me.

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Thanks for sharing!

I think a one on one is going to be the best strategy but I would try to focus on "I" statements rather than come on strong with accusations or "you" statements. If this person is volatile, I'd be very careful how you approach the conversation but I think it's still worth doing

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Thanks for sharing!

I have no problem approaching people and asking respectfully what their problem is. I would defintiely speak to your coworker and let them know how you are feeling and how their actions are affecting you. Holding it in will likely only make things work.

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