I'm feeling really down. Going through a rough break up and I feel like none of the skills I tell my clients are working for me. I'm spending too much time in bed wallowing, and I have no appetite at all. I see a therapist but I've been reluctant to talk about this, for someone reason it makes me feel weak. Thanks for letting me vent

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You got it, keep going.

Please feel free to express your feelings. Cry it out until you feel you had enough of crying. We can only do so much so it's really up to you to overcome your depression. If you need someone to talk to or you want to express how you feel, please feel free to do so. You can overcome it.

When I went through a depressive period I felt the same way. My therapist also pointed out that I was very hard on myself; my standards were to high. Knowing how to use the skills and having skills that work for you are not one in the same. Think outside the box or maybe it’s time to reach out to your closest friend. Hope things improve for you!

I’m not a counselor, nor a therapist, just someone who has gone through disappointments. My advice to you is when you are at your lowest give thanks for the beautiful experience you had in that former relationship. Hold the love you felt in your heart and ask that it return to you. How, when, and who is not for you to figure out, trust that you manifested that love into your life and that it shall return . Perhaps not with the same person, but certainly you will recognize the love. Believe that you are the creator of all beautiful things in your life because you are. I am sending you love and a big hug.

Oh breakup sucks. I was there myself beginning of the year. All I am gonna tell you (putting my therapist/social work hat aside) it is gonna suck, will get worse some days, but eventually it will get better before you know. Allow yourself to grieve. You are grieving a loss and it is okay to feel how you feel. None of the things we tell our pts/clients work. Pretty sure this is how our patients feel too. You need to allow yourself to feel the pain. You will go thru the 5 stages of grief. My only advice dont go back to dating to get over your ex. I really feel for you, I genuinely do..

Ugh so sorry to hear that. Break ups are so tough. I have my own therapist as well. Not all healing is created equal so give yourself some grace there.

Change is the only constant in life. You will feel better…it will take time - be patient with yourself. ❤️ I wish life weren’t so hard, but the sooner we accept that it will be difficult, the sooner we can surrender the illusion of constant states of happiness and just be sometimes.

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