I’m so tired of passive aggressive behavior by leadership in work environments. Does anyone else have experience dealing with this?

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I deal with that a lot too, I wish people would just be more forward when they have criticisms instead of being so passive aggressive about it. I try to just ignore it whenever it happens, but that's getting harder to do.

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Not leadership per se, but yes in general. With experience you can sniff it out and use directness to put someone in their place.

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Yep it’s a real thing and I address it head on as best as I can. And I let my manager know I’m going to address it head on so he can’t act like he didn’t know it’s going down.

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All of the time. I also pick my moments to address it directly. Sometimes that works well, other times not. Usually when people are doing this, they don’t enjoy it being discussed.

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Yes, you are not alone. Passive aggressiveness is such a quick way for employees to respect for leadership

It makes me value the direct people in my work life that much more. Even if I don’t agree with them, at least they say and do what they mean.

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