In your experience, did you observe any difference in military performance between married and unmarried personnel? Me and my buddy talked about this last week. He told me that maybe the reason I stayed long in the army is because I don't have my own family yet, so I have fewer distractions from my duty.

It’s been asked before whether it’s worth it to pay (~$150) to upgrade a 3 hr flight. I generally agree it is not. But what if your two tweenagers bicker nonstop and are complete and total jerks to you all the time and your spouse chooses the “they’ll grow out of it” approach to things so basically you just want 3 hours of alone time. Then is it worth it?

(Note, in this scenario, they are all entirely too naive to realize it isn’t a system comped upgrade.)

Male 🐠, if you and a girl had a “situationship” but obviously had feelings for each other and it had to end for one reason or another, how often do you still think about the girl? Would she be on your mind as you try to move on?

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

I’ve gradually moved on from ex-bf from 1y ago, but still to this day have this greatest fear that I’d crumble if and when I hear he is getting engaged or married to someone.

I wanted a life with him but he couldn’t see it with me (midway of our relationship) or with anyone before me. I do wish him to find his happiness.

It’s just that feelings of unworthy, unloveable, not chosen by someone you love so dearly continue to haunt me after all these times. Anyone has tips to get through this?

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

What games, toys, or science kits would you recommend for a kid who’s showing an interest in the sciences?

I'm a product engineer and it's hard to turn off work mode at the end of the day, I think of how products *should* be packaged when I'm shopping and can't understand why my wife doesn't care 🤷

Any homeschool parents in the group?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

How do you guys make friends in a new town?

For those of you with immediate family members who are at high risk, how are you doing? I find myself being very anxious and stressed about my father getting sick.

Would anyone consider their senior colleagues to be their genuine friends?

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

I’m mid 30s F. Recently started seeing this guy, where he is “good enough”. Good conversations, decent time together, he has a good heart, but nothing about him shines. - not fit (I work out everyday and play sports), meh social skills (he doesn’t have best friends, just few he hangs out with), bit less energy than me.
There is a feeling in me that says “he’s going to be a comfortable life partner” and “he is just good enough, but if I break up I won’t find someone for a long time”
Do I stay?

Anyone want to bar crawl the beltline tonight? I moved here during the pandemic and have no friends around

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Looking for a good daycare or nanny in Cambridge. About a year out but everywhere seems to have waitlists. Any guidance here?

Is Toronto as boring and quiet as this bowl ?

Just got an offer for a Cyber manager role in Deloitte based out of Toronto. Transferring from US as M2. HR setup time to talk salary expectations. Any feedback on salary range for cyber Ms in Toronto?

Anyone here transitioned into a staff accountant role (reconciling differences, end of month balances, JE, etc). Is it better than tax in terms of work/life balance and how is the work?

Does CGI send rejection mail?

Still want a recruitment bonus 👀. Lmk if you’re looking to lateral!

Got offered 115K with 25-30% bonus for a fund accountant role with 3 years of public experience. Is that normal? Seems like really high. I live in NY to clarify. Combination of Big 4 and midsize experience. What’s the normal salary range for ppl in that range?

Hello Sharks
I joined Barclays on 21st March.
I heard that salary day in Barclays is 24th, so will I recieve salary this month or will it come next month only.

Any one staying in kumar park infinia, Fursungi and working in Barclays Kharadi?
Need quick information on travelling !! Please help

Sometimes I don't uphold the company mission 😱

Ah, Fridays. The day partners decide they don't want to work all weekend and dump everything on you.

Which company would be great to join as SAP Security and GRC consultant?
Capgemini or Protiviti
Money is an important but not the driving factor, its only about learning and try risk advisory.
YOE: 7 years

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

Curious what the base and commission structure is for inside sales and associate director of sales in biotech (also anyone else who wants to share pls put industry). Paid hourly or salary? At the biotech company I work at avg inside sales is $62,632 with a $3500 per quarter cap. Commission structure is % based on sales quota reached vs capped (not a direct % of sales). I’m underpaid at $53000 with $3500 cap per quarter.

What kind of work is done in M&A advisory (IT)?

Any books or resources to broaden knowledge on the field?

What skills should I be enhancing? Excel? Report writing?

guys im looking for MidMarket M&A associate referrals. I graduate from my MBA in April 23’. Please DM /Connect would be happy to share details or arrange coffee chats .

When are rating going to be out for KGS. Any update anyone

I’m in my 2nd year in audit. I want to pivot into management consulting within a big 4 or MBB. Has anyone seen someone make this lateral movement? I’m not sure how feasible that is and what steps to take. I’m also down to discuss further with whoever is comfortable in connecting.

Has anyone heard of Lurie LLP I’m seriously interested in their private client service/wealth advisors

We as the armed forces of the United States have a research department, but the greatest advances at the armament level come from private sectors, this could not be something counterproductive because if they sell a product to us, what deprives them of selling it to other countries?

Do you ever regret pursuing the life of a soldier?

When (if ever) did you start seeing your drill instructor as a real person who felt compassion for the recruits?

What's your favorite tactical vehicle?

How does one decide to take risks and apply for news job when the state of the economy and the world is ever changing. We know salaries are going up, but employers struggle doling out the cash. Is it better to stick where you are or jump into something new?

If you had to choose between the army and the navy, which one would you choose and why?

I'm not sure if I love this life! I was entirely sure when I decided to enroll in the military, but after a few months, I felt exhausted. Could I have made a mistake?

Do you guys think that our country is being heavily militarized?

How different are the physical requirements for men vs women? I'm thinking of the Navy specifically but would welcome insights from any branch of the military, thanks

If I have double British and American citizenship, should I join the US or British army?

The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

Can one become financially stable after being discharged from the military?

For those that have been in awhile and looking closely at retirement. Are you switching careers or if you did how did it go? What advice would you give someone four years out from retirement?

I brought my guitar to Iraq, it wasn't easy, but I managed to convince my commander to let me take it. I will never forget those days when we played our favorite country songs with my buddies.

Are there a lot of openly gay male soldiers?

Does anyone else feel like they have become too utilitarian and objective?

Do you know anyone who has served in more than one branch of the service? It doesn't seem very common but I'm just curious. Thanks

I don't know if it was only me, but I felt I couldn't truly trust any of my mates on deployment. Am I the only one?

I just became a commander. I've always been a good soldier, but it's my turn to lead. I hope I do a good job. Any words of encouragement?

I feel like I haven't seen the results of our efforts. The Middle East is still a mess. There's a war in Europe we won't take part in. Does anyone else feel this way?