Introverts or otherwise, if you've joined a new team or organisation during the pandemic, how are you getting along with your new team mates?

What are you doing to make friends/connections at work? How are you benchmarking your output, when there isn't enough interaction?

I just found out a new colleague was brought on at 20% higher salary than my current salary. (Have been w/ firm 1.5 years) She doesn’t have a 4-year degree (working on it). How do I bring this inequity up and ask to be compensated equally? I have years more experience and My work is more complex - she is basically a receptionist. Any suggestions would be helpful!

what do you use to keep your execs organized. I support 3 execs and since working from home things have gotten much busier and without being there to talk to them, it is all chat or calls when I can get time with them. any and all suggestions would be welcomed. thanks! Happy Friday by the way!

I’m a manager and one of my direct reports makes more than me. It really bothers me. Anyone else been in this situation before? What’s the best way to handle it?

How can I get my *micro* manager off my back? I know I haven’t been doing the best work this quarter, but emailing me all damn day isn’t going to help me do better, I do know that.

Would you guys change your PML (performance management leader) if she or he didn’t reach out during these times? I’m questioning how I should trust this person if an email from National is thought of as sufficient engagement?

Do y’all still wear suits and ties at MBB or business casual when meeting with clients?

Getting dirty looks leaving at 6 is the most consulting thing I’ve ever seen

What do you tell your CEO who wants ROI on PR campaigns?

Am I particularly uptight, or is writing meant to be done alone, without a partner talking to you? With past partners, we chat through script notes and then I go off to execute. Current partner likes to sit and chat as I write. To me, writing is crafting a conversation. So I can’t talk to you and simultaneously talk to this audience. Of course I can just say “I’m gonna go write.” But since we’re both CD level, I’m like…is this his first rodeo? Maybe other writers are different though.

Can I still work as a telemarketer even though I have a noticeable accent? People don't say they can't understand me but they seem relieved when they get to talk to somebody else. My boss acts like I'm not very good at the job and I think it's because some customers think I am an "outsider," for lack of a better term. I just want to fit in.

What level of watch is acceptable to wear to work? Not sure if office vs client site also impacts

I have an intern who's hygiene has slowly deteriorated over a few very stressful weeks at work. Should I leave them be, or gently remind them?

Doing those mid year peer/self review kills all time that would be better spent pretending to help my clients

One of the executives at my job is really attractive. Sometimes I get “ lost” so I can walk by his office 🤭

What’s your favorite WFH footwear? Any recommended brands for a chilly home office?

Partners, what are signs/examples that a project’s leadership is prioritizing the clients needs over the team beyond the normal ‘nature of client service’? Is a convo is worth it?

A toxic co-worker tried to throw me under the bus to cover their mistake in a call with leadership 😢😢. I showed the proof of conversation the next moment without hesitation to everyone. Suddenly their tone changes and tries to divert the topic 😒😒. I am distraught 🙁🙁

Is there a secret code word to use when wanting to strike up a conversation with someone you suspect to be a fellow consultant e.g. at an airport?

Do you ever feel like people treat you differently at your firm because of your age? Like reverse ageism? As if you don't know enough or aren't competent enough yet? Just curious if others have ever felt this way.

@women in the ME, I’m moving from NYC to Dubai. Is there some things to consider for attire in a business environment or is it the same as in NA? I’m thinking about business travel to other countries like KSA 👀

What are the bgv docs required in cgi?

I love Instagram, I really do! But sometimes I feel that as a creative the thought of "sticking" to an aesthetic makes me cringe! I feel that art & inspo should be free flowing - not confined to a box

Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

Anyone ever switched to a transaction manager role in a big investment bank/ fin services bank after big law? Grateful for any advice.

Any nonprofit/EO lawyers looking for a change of scenery and a better fit?
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How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

Waddle or Theilen?

I have a friend looking for a graphic designer that can build her a style guide. Anyone have any recommendations?

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What are some good restaurants with outdoor space that is heated in the winter?

How long do you wait on a planned call for a Director or MD to join? I've noticed they tend to be at least 5 mins late but mostly almost 10. Please respect my time if I respect yours!!

This week’s topic in our staff meetings is trauma and understanding the behavior of our students. Anyone else can’t help but take it personal when students lash out? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Anyone have advice for a first year about to start? Things you wish you did, things you wish you didn’t do?

No one really talks in this bowl....but I was curious of our male vs female makeup. Female here! 🙋🏾‍♀️ Single, not in a relationship. What about you?

Does anyone else feel like once you’re known as the quiet person, it’s hard to change your clients’ or teams’ minds? How do you start off a new project not being the quiet one?

I have a love-hate relationship with DU.

It takes me time to warm up & connect to new people, esp. in casual settings. Anyone any strategies how to deal with that? I see I am missing out on good and deeper connections.

What do you do to be aware what peers and others outside your circle are up to?

When I get mild anxiety during a conversation I press my thumb agains one of my other fingers and it helps me relax a bit. Does anybody else do this? 😭

I thought I had figured out how to mostly manage being an introvert and doing this work. Then I went from a project of 15 core stakeholders to one with 45… 🙃🤬😱

Best headphones for air travel?

My Bose QuietControl 30’s fell apart this week. In the market for a replacement. What do my fellow introverts recommend for blocking noise on airplanes?

The worst imaginable thing happened today. Someone tried to start multiple conversations with me in the quiet room of the library. Thank you all for your support during this difficult time.

Ideas for a night in alone? Feeling Chinese take out to start it right

Anyone else frustrated with how people conflate introversion with social anxiety? I’m introverted but not socially anxious. And I know plenty of socially anxious extroverts.

Mother and sister are getting cabin fever. Father is being a bit irrational. I'm just going with whatever keeps them calm so I can retreat back to my room and be an introvert in peace. Anyone else?

How do I get more involved in team room conversations? Any practical tips? I have good comebacks in my head just have trouble voicing them

A few extravert friends texted me over the weekend, panicking about WFH mandates and being socially isolated. I do not share their pain! Nice of them to care, though ❤️

Is it a bad to tell new case team members you’re a little more introverted? We do these team normings in the beginning of projects and I’ve mentioned that I’m more introverted to help them understand how to collaborate better with me. I feel like it helps especially during remote work. However, I’m debating if I should stop because people might judge me negatively. Thoughts?

Hello fellow introverts! How is 2022 treating you all so far? I am eagerly seeking for an exit out of consulting :)