Is it easier to start fresh or fix a five years relationship with tons of issues (including disloyalty). I feel like I’m drowning trying to make this relationship work while he’s barely trying

Have this nurse at work that is driving me crazy...she told a family their kid would "definitely need dialysis" before I had spoken with them

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

Any tips on helping my remote bond/feel more connected with each other?

My mom turns 60 at the end of December. What would be a unique experience to get her (not stuff)? We want to spend around $1,000.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

confession:i regret not prioritizing finding a good partner when i was in my college/early career years and envy those who did. it's harder now mid-senior career because you have less time and it actually requires you put time and effort into finding a good relationship

How do you guys make friends in a new town?

Anyone else stuck here without family? I'm in SF and my roommates are going home to their families tonight and i'm going to be alone, it's going to be a long 3 weeks..... 😭😭😭

A good friend is going for ummrah this month. Any ideas on something nice to give them before they go? What is one thing that helped you?

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Anybody single in their late 30s / early 40s given up on marriage? How do you see your life progressing? What do you do day-to-day to cope with loneliness?

I am 52 I have been feeling so tired and when I was in my 40’s. I had a lot more energy. Now I am so tired after work - but I have 4 girls ages, 16-15-13-9. I am going through menopause and my Osteoarthritis hurts somedays and that doesn’t work. Any advice how to keep up with my four girls while feeling crummy?!?

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Any other ladies get so frustrated by forced family set ups? I swear I only hear from my extended family when it’s about set ups and my marriage status. And usually it’s just them praising the guy and telling me to make it work since I’m getting old (early 30s) 🤦🏽‍♀️

If you had two kids would you let them both learn the same 2nd language that neither you or your spouse know?

Early mornings became my best friend once I had kids. Managing to put 2 to 3 hrs of work Sat and Sun before they are awake means that I get to spend more time with them during the day.

I used to get 2-3 productive hours after the kids went to bed to catch up on work, chores, shopping, etc but now I'm struggling to have any motivation after the hour-long process of getting kids down.

About to have a difficult conversation with my parents about treating my wife with respect. Please send advice and good vibes.

Can anyone provide information on Alix partners - PE and M&A groups? What is the experience like? How would it compare to say a Kearney T&T (their PE/M&A group).

Hi, can anyone refer me in IBM for Python developer position.

I just became a commander. I've always been a good soldier, but it's my turn to lead. I hope I do a good job. Any words of encouragement?

Do you think diversity training actually works? I can't tell if it's just a way to tick a liability box or if it's actually effective.

healthcare promotion from EM to SM in your firm? trying to calibrate expectations....

Need some feedback! So I was forced to move jobs about 6 months ago due to reorg and the new leader opting to bring their existing EA with them, without even meeting me. If stayed at the company but accepted an offer for a job outside of the department I was in. I’ve now been asked by a manager from my old department to apply for a job they’re opening that would be a 2 step promotion. She thought she got my managers permission to approach me (see comments)

Why do movies run their regular trailers during the SB? Why don’t they create something special? Maybe even conceptual?

Do you work somewhere where quality is valued over efficiency? Where can I find this? In-house? Small boutique?

Friend lives in Moscow, Russia and friends with a Sr manager of multiple rolex ADs in the city. Apart from the usual DJs, literally the only thing they apparently have in the entire city is a single Submariner gold TT. Crazy. And here I was thinking that I can outfox the waitlists

Deloitte Manager or IBM Manager?? Please suggest.
Almost same fixed package.. skill SAP Functional Close to 10 Yrs experience.

How is SAP Security Job Market in Canada?

Looking for a pharmacist job with a pharmaceutical company. Have prior experiences with pharmaceutical company including Medical Information and Safety. Please let me know.

Hi Fishes,

What is average salary offered for senior product manager at S&P global market intelligence? Yoe-7 relevant-5

I am being offered 26lpa which includes 15% variable component plus employer contribution to PF. So, the fixed component is just 21. How much more can I negotiate for? Have existing offer of 23l (all fixed)

Hi all
I am a senior system engineer with 3 years of experience in ReactJs.
I am desperately looking for a change right now.
It will be greatful if I can get few referrals

Hello Fishies-!!!!!

I had question, when we apply for a job in another country, they usually ask a question “Are you legally allowed/eligible to work in that country”

In such a case, do you select yes or no? What is the criteria to answer that question?

Please help!

hey, looking for referrals for .net full stack developer, with4 years experience. In any of these companies in chennai location, EY, Verizon, Pwc, Deloitte, simens.

Can anyone please help with referals

Wish I would stop thinking, I think too much, process things over and over again in my mind, when I sleep it continues in my dreams- no rest.

I had a depressive relapse this weekend that resulted in someone I love getting physically hurt. Idk what to do other than go back to therapy but I can’t even get through the first hour of work today

How do you detach from work? I’m wired at this point to be so attached that even when I’m off I’m super stressed out, and have to look at emails and keep up or else I get severe anxiety. Anybody?

How do you all set better boundaries? I find myself working weekends to catch up and stay on top of things and it’s not even busy season. I am burning myself out quickly and I don’t know why I just don’t stop. Can anyone relate?

Might be the wrong bowl but finding it extremely difficult to focus on work post busy season. It’s been 2 weeks since we filed and I’m still taking lots of naps and breaks (I’m talking like 3-4 cumulative hrs worked during the day). Idk if I’m taking longer to recover from busy season bc I’m getting old or if I’m over public accounting (but then where do i go). Tried to schedule time with a therapist but everyone has a months-long waitlist so next step might be trying to find a life/career coach

Just got into a minor car accident over the weekend. The other person is claiming injuries but hard to believe since the damage to car was minimal. Feel worried Never been in an accident be4 advice?

Earlier this year I was making $75k as an FA and now $90k as an SFA in OC which is pretty much market value (4yrs exp - 2 in B4). I wanted that raise to $90k for a while and now that I have it, I catch myself thinking about wanting more & more money, even though I have more than enough to live out my means. Anyone else think about this often? And how can I stop?

How do those of you that struggle w/depression handle working at home? Going in to the office gives me a reason to get out of bed in the morning but I’m struggling today due to offices closed (snow)

Panic attacks and anxiety for public speaking in front of strangers. Anyone in a simular situation who have tried Toastmasters?

Anyone read “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”? Is it worth reading or is it another stale self help book?

I am overly stressed that my parents are visiting and staying with me for 5 weeks. Paid them for a cruise but still have 4 weeks. I am dreaded to live with them 4 weeks without social engagement cont'

I'm on the verge of a panic attack. help

Does anyone have advice on going through a breakup and focusing at work. I am struggling

My sister and I have recently both come to the realization that our parents guilt us into spending time with them or visiting them and the guilt causes us both to shut down. Our dad is the main offender, often reminding us how little time we have left with him, asking us why we’re leaving so soon or reminding us about all the good deeds and sacrifices made. We’ve both noticed this shift in our relationship with our parents after graduating from college and starting our own adult lives. Continued

Does anyone else struggle with codependency in the workplace? I find this environment (and specific people) to be significant enablers for me.

Does anyone think that it’s wrong to just not need a lot of companionship? I have an SO, decent family members and I guess a few friends. And I really don’t feel the desire to surround myself with peo

This is kinda weird but is anyone paranoid? I've been so paranoid lately. Like if I'm driving, I visualize me in a car crash. If my parents call, I get paranoid that they have bad news.

Anyone else?

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Was at the beach with friends and had one really down day there where I didn’t feel happy at all. Since I got back 2.5 days ago I’ve done nothing but watch tv, sleep, and barely eat. I hate this