Is there even such thing as a woman with no Instagram? I just broke up with a woman who refused to stop posting (she would record 30 stories a day, even while we were on dates)

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Yes, me 🙋🏻‍♀️

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Me too! I went cold turkey from Facebook and Instagram in 2018 and never went back.

Constantly seeing one’s life through the lens of making posts and getting likes does bad things to one’s brain. Social media makes people think they’re more important than they actually are.

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I have an Instagram account, love it, and not on it all the time. I have responsibilities, things to do, and a life. Maybe she has some challenges with anxiety or something in which social media allows her to open up more than she might around people. The world can be cruel.

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I get the “posting on dates” thing is annoying, but it sounds like you were annoyed by her posting in general. If this is the case, there’s likely a control or jealousy issue that transcends beyond Instagram.

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You are right. It’s some sort of mental health issue for her. It’s something that a supportive partner can help her out with. Unfortunately, she doesn’t see it as abnormal/excessive behavior and refuses to address it, let alone be open to supportive advice. It’s better to just break up and find someone who isn’t so deeply involved her self-image on social media.

Sure, maybe I could be more open-minded as well, but having seen all the various stages of social media addiction through the years (remember Friendster, MySpace and Nokia flip phones?), my threshold is admittedly very thin.

I don’t have insta, facebook or tiktok

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But u have x, snapchat, and scroller

Yes, there is such a thing as a women without or not interacting with/posting on IG…

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I'm sure there are. Probably a greater likelihood of people that don't use it that frequently. I make a post a few times a year and the story around once a week (typically about my hobby).

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Same - I have IG to stalk others but only like two pictures that a friend posted on my behalf one time. Never to be repeated 🤣.

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Aaaaand that is why I no longer have insta…too many people post nothing, but all they want to do is stalk you and see what you do, so no thank you 😂

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Well all girls do it twerk, hold their tounge out signifying oral pleasure or say "I'm so sad do u think I'm cute " if u say hi I send nudes...."
But yet have I gotten nudey pics

No but I think posting daily or at that level is insane

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Me!

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Me too, I have one just use it sooo rarely I never remember the password

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yes hi i am a late 30s woman who deleted her instagram 2 years ago because it was feeling so absolutely narcissistic and silly.

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And you are at Wieden … perfection!

I have Instagram but zero posts. Does that count? 😋

Can I get your ig tag
..I'm sooooo lonely

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Yes. I hardly post but I have a handful of friends who have got rid of their IG accounts within the last year.

I think it might be rare to have absolutely no SM at a certain age. The one without IG still has a FB but doesn’t really use. Another has tik tok but I’m not sure how active they are since I refuse to get another app.

The only reason I have IG is to stalk people 🤣

Let me see your pic and puts the lotion in the basket

Just got an insta 6 months ago because I was tired of being out of the loop of my friends' lives (esp the international ones).I've never posted and check it maybe 2-3 times / week.

Sounds like she was very into Instagram, which I'd find annoying in any gender. If she was really into attention-seeking behavior (which can exist outside socials), I'd find it obnoxious.

30 stories a day would be a red flag, unless this person makes their living this way and manages to keep the posting from intruding on our time together (and not even sure how that'd work).

I didn’t have active social media when we first dated, I deactivated it years prior. She asked me to reactivate it. That’s when I saw what she was posting. It looks like she was always like this, long before we met.

It didn’t get worse, it was constant. Any critique of the behavior was met with “You’re just insecure.”

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My IG proves I’m a Millennial. It’s so sad, don’t care to improve it either

Technically, I have all social media. I just don't get on it very often. Besides when I'm bored and fall into the bottomless pit of Reels or Tiktoks.

You’re a ‘Creative Director’!! Maybe she was trying to impress you with her creativity on social media? ☺️

I have an Instagram, but I post maybe once a month on there lol. I do share more stuff on Facebook, but even that is 1-2x a day, maybe a little more if there's a lot going on lol. But it's not always pics on Facebook

My IG is basically for window shopping nowadays. Last post was in 2021

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