Just need to get this off my chest and not specifically looking for any advice or help. I’m extremely burned out. Physically, mentally, and emotionally drained and am hanging on by a thread. Between client work, PRDs, and everything in my personal life this year, I’m honestly surprised that I’ve been able to keep myself alive. I really want to take leave but afraid of losing my job when I return and I can’t afford that. 😓

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My dad committed suicide and all he left was a legacy of pain. Please don’t do that. There are people who care about you and some you haven’t even met yet.
Feelings change…
Get therapy, join a support group, practice meditation, yoga, mindfulness.
Journal and look at the good and the bad parts. We all make a mess sometimes.
Nothing is unforgivable
Be gentle with yourself and love others

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If you had surgery, would you take your disability? It’s the same thing! Please take leave and get whatever help or rest you need. You will feel better and be better in your personal and professional life. You deserve to enjoy life just like everyone else. Best of luck to you.

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Just putting this out -

989- Suicide and crisis lifeline

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I was given a PIP when I took disability. Its illegal but we all know companies do this. However, I wouldn't be alive if I hadn't taken leave. I spent my entire savings down to the penny during my leave but i would have done it all over again.

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OP I am kind of there with you. Beyond overwhelmed and spread thin, but gotta keep keeping on.

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I’m very overwhelmed too. Just living one day at a time and remembering who I am outside of work.

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If I have come to a part of my. Where I have found that I have dug myself into a hole. The first thing that I must do to get back out is to stop digging.
Every company has a years end inventory. Where they take stock of where they've been and where they are going.
So I do the same. I take a peice of paper. Divide it into three columns. The first column I put what's bad
The second column I put what's good. The third column I put what's the best thing that I should do.
This is right in front of me. Gives me the reality of it all.
Now I know where I have been and where I am going.
Now I can focus on what it is that I need to do.
I try to manage my day ( 24hrs ) Like this , 8hrs of work. Eight hours of me time ( swimming, or cycling or any personal interests for my required disapline and my solitude)
Balance as best as I can.
Variety is the spice of life.
So where is your spice?

Some things I would try:

1) take a vacation, ideally a place where you can get away for a week, beach or mountains whatever you prefer.

2) Look into medication for depression and/or ADHD. I braved it many years without it, but made a huge difference. Stick to it for at least 30 days to see results.

3) Explore working in a different industry or company. I worked in Tech and the job was so boring that it was diminishing my spirit. I work in manufacturing now, and love what I do even though I make less $.

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This is how I’ve felt all year. Want to be there for my family and take responsibility for things but feel a let down as always thinking about work. During the week I’m frustrated and angry about work and then of a weekend I’m back to being the ‘old me’. My anxiety is through the roof and always worrying. Sleepless nights thinking about work. Trying to keep going when that alarm goes off……
Just had enough!

Keep going and stay strong

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I feel this away at times utterly without the suicidal ideas anymore. I wish I could take a sabbatical, if I could afford it. It's been a really rough time. Friends and projects help. Making myself feel and rest is the hardest. You're not alone. Feel how you need to feel. Take what time you need when you can get it. And don't forget to ask for help!

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Sometimes all that a person needs is a friend 🧡
We are all friends here

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I worked hard for six years for the same company. I am of the believe that I should work hard for the company . A successful company will pay their successful employees.
My boss had other ideas. He pushed me in everyway. In a daily effort to break me. To no avail. When he found out that I had no place to go he fired me.
I have had a fourteen month vacation. I start a government union job this January.
As one door closes another door opens.
What we both could have prosperd from. Instead it was me who prosperd.

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