Ladies, I’m having a hard time. I have been killing myself to meet / beat my goals. I had a slow year last year but this year I’m doing really well. I learned this week I’m being separated due to a “forward and backward looking algorithm”

I have been st my firm my whole career. I always thought I’d be a lifer. I’m trying to think of a path forward but I’m really just feeling emotional. Sad, mad, surprised. And of course under valued.

I guess I’m just seeking advice and comfort.

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I am an executive career advisor and coach. If you’d like to talk.

Here are the steps:

1) Identify long term goals and which careers are right for you. And which companies are right for you.
2) Determine and create a brand for yourself.
3) Leverage your network
4) Get a plan and execute!

Also, be aware! Many of my clients come out of companies they have stayed with for MANY years and make bad decisions because they don’t know what they want. It’s like being in a long marriage since high school then jumping into the dating world.

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That’s what a coach will help you with

You’re probably feeling a loss of identity given how long you’ve been at the firm and your desire to be a lifer. Very common feeling to have in situations like this. Learn from this to not make your employer part of your identity.

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Thanks so much for the recommendation, I’ll listen now!

It’s been a wave of emotions. I’m just trying to focus on how to move forward. It feels supremely unfair. But I have to move on, and I’ve learned something I didn’t know about my firm before.

I was recently in your shoes and realized how much my working life defined my own identity. Give yourself permission and grace to grieve, get mad, talk to those who will listen and let you get things off your chest and find/do the things that give you joy….but never be “embarrassed”. Take the time you need and when you are ready, start reaching out to your network and share what you want to be doing - you will find amazing people who will want to help you on your journey.

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I’m so sorry that this happened to you. This happened to me during COVID and it hurt. I was at the top of my game, made a lot of sacrifices for my work with travel and long hours and felt like I was thrown out like trash during the pandemic. Hang in there because you will be okay. I found a better role, feel really valued at my new company, and ended up making more money. I am lucky. You will be okay. You just need to let it all out! It’s okay to be really pissed and then use the fire to move forward. You got this!

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Just sending you good juju. I recently moved and from what you’re saying I think I was at your firm. I think there’s something to be said about moving — none of these jobs are easy, sometimes the juice simply isn’t worth the squeeze anymore.

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Get a lawyer and make sure the firm does everything by the book for your separation. Use all of the resources of the firm and the severance (which should be ample) for a partner with your years with the firm to plot your next step. Make sure the separation reasons are documented and truly fair., no firm wants to be a headline for unfairly firing a diverse person. Make sure HR is on notice. Take charge of this, don’t get mad, get even. (And know that if you were a man that’s what they would do…,and then some).

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I had a very similar experience, I was laid off after 25 years with a company. I really thought I would retire there. It is incredibly emotional. Allow yourself time and space to grieve. When you’re ready to start looking for your next opportunity, use your network. I was reluctant to ask people for help at first, it’s just not my style. When I actually did, I was delighted to find so many people who really wanted (and could) help. Best of luck!

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Take a breath then move on. Better things ahead.
What are your core skills? ACN is recruiting in some areas

Thank you, I have been taking lots of walks to get the nervous energy out.

I focus on revenue and profitability metrics in diligence, value creation, and strategy. I also have a passion for alternative data and the data marketplace in general.

that s hard times

Instead of dwelling on them, use them as fuel to propel you forward. Take some time to grieve the loss of your job, but don't let it consume you. Channel that sadness into a desire for a new beginning. Let the anger motivate you to find a place that truly appreciates your talent and dedication.

I have been there as well and it is so frustrating and sad. Its normal to feel emotional about it OP and you are not alone. Theres no shame in looking for something else if you are feeling undervalued.

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