My ex called an autistic girl with a history of bullying ugly online & that’s the closure I needed to see he wasn’t who I built him up to be in my mind and I made way too many excuses for his abuse

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I’m so sorry you suffered from his abuse. I can only imagine what you must have endured if he could say something like that to a stranger online

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Really appreciate that!! It’s taken a year to unpack the psychological stuff he put me through for years but I’m getting there!

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