My ex gf sent a message after a little more than 2 months of no contact saying she thought of me bc of something. I was surprised and i decided to respond and honestly tell her that I thought about her as well and we briefly caught up. Next evening decided to ask to meet up for dinner or lunch and she flat out says shes only open to it as friends and that she’s not interested in re-opening the door to a relationship. It hurt and her messaging me out of the blue confuses me :(

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She probably does just want to be friends. It's the easiest for the person who no longer has any feelings but can still reap the rewards of friendship/companionship.

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It’s rarely a linear process. You both could decide to be friends at the same time or different times or not at all. Focus on what you want and what you need in your healing rather than what she’s doing/saying. You can’t control her messages.

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Guess I’m just not sure why she decided to message me that she thought of me. Deep down was hoping it was because she wanted to try to rekindle. Maybe she rethought or she’s also confused. Idk. Or just breadcrumbing me. Shortly after our breakup, she consistently reached out and then came our longer 2 month NC until she broke it again yesterday

Yea. I see. You all are probably right. I can see that :(

You don’t think she’s not sure what she wants? Ive been working on moving on but this definitely brings the feels

She is just checking if she still has power on you. It’s unconscious behavior. let her handle and take the consequences of her decisions. It will be extremely hard, but cut the rope and move forward.

Block her immediately!

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