My manager added me on instagram and I’m not sure how to feel about it.. Is this appropriate or concerning..

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My general boundary is that co workers/managers/attorneys can add me on LinkedIn, but not other personal social media. I am friends outside of work with one co worker who is on my Instagram but we are both paralegals and knew each other before we worked at this firm. I don’t feel comfortable with people who I have a strictly professional relationship having the level of access to my personal life outside of work

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People are social animals. This manager is bound to bring up something they see on your social media to others at work. Even something innocent can be misconstrued. I learned this lesson a long time ago and now have the same policy as P1

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If yall aren’t that cool, I’d definitely remove them. It’s so weird to me when they do something like that knowing the “relationship” is completely professional. I have one of the manager’s pets in my requests now and it’ll never be accepted 😂

Without knowing the manager or your relationship with them, I can’t determine if it’s appropriate or concerning, but given your hesitancy/concern with it – do not feel obligated to add her and just ignore it.

If the manager says anything about you not accepting it, just say that you didn’t see it/you don’t really use Instagram.

I just generally have a rule of thumb that I don’t add people to my social media unless we no longer work together.

(As a FYI, you can actually remove somebody as a follower on Insta without them knowing. So it’s what I would do here. 😂)

Don't use your full or real name so people can't find you.

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