Over the past four years I’ve put on 80 pounds by ordering out frequently, binging (food, alcohol, weed), and ending almost all physical activity. Every few months I step on a scale, freak out, and...

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I know this sounds weird, but deciding who you are going to be and saying out loud to yourself (I’m at around 20x per day on some of these) actually has neuroscience behind it, and it has helped me lose 50lbs over the last year. Rather than “I can’t eat sugar,” which my brain rebels against, I say to myself “I DON’T eat sugar.” Rather than “I should work out,” I say “I don’t miss workouts.” I’m slowly moving from a person with little discipline to a person with solid discipline, but it takes time. I write down daily, weekly, monthly, and annual goals and review them daily so I remember where I’m going every morning. But willpower is a muscle, and it wears down over time. That’s why a healthy breakfast is easier to do than not giving in to afternoon or late night snacking, drinking, etc. Agree with the idea of choosing one goal a week and adding a new one each week. This week - no weed during the week. Next week, it’s that plus no carbs after 3pm (or whatever). Week after that, it’s those plus a minimum of 4 workouts (pro tip: never miss a Monday). Build up the wins over time. Remember: the day you plant the seed isn’t the day you eat the fruit. Real growth takes time. Comfort zones are great, but nothing grows there. You can absolutely do this!

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Yeah: baby steps. You’re trying to change everything at once. Willpower is finite, and you’re stacking the deck against yourself. Focus on one thing at a time. You can start by cutting down week (if you smoke once a day, switch to once every two days, etc), then when that works, add the next thing. This is a marathon, not a sprint. You can do it!

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Start with therapy. Not joking. Not judging. It sounds like you have something else driving your bad habits and poor decision making. I was there once - in college. I was 150 when I started and ended up depressed and that’s when I started smoking, binge eating, and drinking. I put on 65 lbs and went from a 34 waist to a 40. It took a lot of hard self reflection to know I was compensating for something. When I realized that I started to find what was missing. It was my self worth. I struggle with that same issue (though much less severely) but talk therapy and medication was what I needed early on. Now, no medication, I’m at a very healthy 155, size 31 waist, no bad eating/drinking/smoking. I highly recommend you look inward and talk to someone who could help. GL! You can do this!

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I have had a very similar experience. I started college at 165. Started my senior year at 265. It was a mix of poor eating choices, eating too much, drinking, stress, and lack of exercise. First thing I did was stop smoking. I still had the oral fixation, so I would treat myself to hookah every once in a while. Not healthy, but better than smoking and munchies. Then I started hitting the gym. Make sure when you start you get a body composition analysis done. Progress isn’t always seen on the scale. A lot of us are driven by data too, so that could help. With exercise, find something that you’re passionate about and won’t bore you. I loved biking, then I tried swimming, and now I’m onto competitive sports like basketball and floor hockey. Treadmills and weight lifting aren’t the sustainable answer for everybody. With diet, I would try and find a group of friends that you can cook for/with. Cook each other healthy meals once a week. Eat carb free at lunch. Have a nutrition supplement/protein shake for one meal a day. Consider calories too. Opting out of fries or getting fish instead of pork all make big changes! Eating healthy at restaurants is possible, just takes some self control. Also, try and only drink once or twice a week. Alcohol can be a serious game changer when you’re trying to lose weight. Stay away from sugary mixers and consider drinking spirits straight or with water/soda water (not tonic!). I followed most of those suggestions for about a year and I’ve officially lost 50 lbs of body fat and gained 15 lbs of muscle. It has really made me feel much healthier and more confident. It’s not easy... doing things like getting support from your friends and family is so important. Not so they nag you, but so you can talk to them, share successes and (hopefully less often) failures. Getting past the two month mark is really hard, but it is SO worth it! DM me if you want to chat at all.

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I think you need to be honest with yourself and ask how weed is impacting your life and why. If it lets you decompress and live a highly functional life then I would only suggest cutting it down and that too, gradually. You’ll end up with a lot more anxiety if you try forcing yourself to quit cold turkey. As someone said above, baby steps. You sound depressed and I fully empathize with you but don’t be too hard on yourself! If you so do feel that you need some changes in your life then sure, come up with a game plan.

I’ve been smoking for 13 years and smoke every day (if I’m working locally or have access to it in a city!). I used to be very overweight but turned a leaf, started eating healthy (or relatively) and working out like a maniac, but never stopped smoking. 8 years later and I’m in the best shape of my life. I use weed as a relaxant and trust me, I have a high tolerance so I end up staying up late and toking a lot. I don’t “binge eat” on food but will often indulge in some late night sugary foods, but the religious workout regimen lets me offset the calories. I feel a tad hazy when I wake up but I’m fine after a shower. If I feel like I overdid it with the munchies, I end up working my ass off in the gym the same night and cut back on food that day.

Try this - workout for an hour or two. Crush yourself. Come home and light it up. Get hungry. Eat a big healthy meal - I mean, stuff your face with that lean turkey, chicken, beef, salmon, avocados, whatever. Then smoke a good amount again. Get blazed AF. However, don’t eat anything after that. When you wake up the next day and take a shit, you’re gonna feel 10 lbs lighter and you’ll actually be 3-4 lbs lighter. You’ll look great in the mirror and THAT, my friend, is the ego boost you need right now. Try it!

PS: surrounding yourself with people who you aspire to be like is always a great way to change yourself!

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What SM1 said. If you feel weed is the culprit then all means. What I am learning is that it’s about lifestyle habits. My friend said something interesting “You’re diet starts at the grocery store”. It’s so true. I stopped stocking up my apt with ice cream, chips, candy. Makes a huge difference. For me it’s not the weed alone that gives me the munchies. It’s the fact I have food in the house after blazing

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dedicate myself to about 2-6 weeks of a regimented gym and diet schedule. Almost always, I end up smoking in excess and consequently binge-eat

I wake up the next day feeling terrible (physically and mentally), and spend the day in my home. I rationalize this by fasting to cleanse my system, but at nighttime I usually break the fast by ordering food

I realized recently that I need to grow up and give up weed, but I am having trouble coming to peace with this decision. I always seem to rationalize that I can celebrate, and let loose today, but inevitably that leads to poor decision making

Any suggestions on what I should be doing? Anyone been in a similar situation?

Not as deep of a response but I smoke to decompress and it doesn’t negatively affect my life except for the munchies so I started making healthy munchies that I wouldn’t feel guilty about the next day. I.e some guac or baked zucchini chips...veggie burgers or big salads. Once I started eating the healthy snacks more often the unhealthy ones became unappealing and I lost the weight I originally gained from smoking

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