People with a judgmental or critical family how did you get over it? Their criticism has helped me in some regards but I find myself judging myself and other people harshly. I know a cure for this is to stop judging other people but how do you find the happy medium with being stern with yourself but not judging yourself?

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

SO said he couldn’t receive letters during Ranger School, but finding info online that I can send. Any insight? Maybe he doesn’t want the distraction?

Do friends ever dump you onto your therapist or psychiatrist or dismiss your valid, normal feelings as “oh did you tell your doctor about this?” I feel like they’re just shitty friends delegating off.

Anybody willing to help a broke kid out with some mock interview prep?

How can I make friends in Chicago?

My mom’s friend was supposed to come to my wedding in a week and just cancelled. I’ve never met her but my mom insisted she be invited. This person already sent us a check which we deposited already; we already sent a thank you card. This person left me a VM saying they were sorry they couldn’t come; they have leukemia and their Dr. didn’t approve. Do I need to call them back? I would like to avoid an awkward phone call about personal matterwith a stranger but also don’t want to be insensitive.

28,F divorced no child and no life , my marriage is nothing but a whole cheat drama, now parents are asking to marry anyone who can 'accept ' me but I never did anything wrong other than being innocent and naive and good to bad people, really wanted to live my life, somebody hold my hand when in distress and i ended up somebody who just need my money and body nothing else, just feel like committing suicide, never been a loser at any point of life , Life is bloody damn unfair

Just got married to a somebody I met through this bowl and I love him with everything inside me! Wanted to share that’s there’s hope for everybody!!!!

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Serious question: if you are interested in someone but they want to wait till marriage before you know... Would you end it or wait with them?

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

For anyone in this bowl. How crucial is it for you to have a formal dining room separated from the kitchen? My son and daughter-in-law are buying a house for their future family and I'm trying to convince them a formal dining room looks better and makes things less chaotic in the kitchen, especially with kids. Am I out of touch? Or is it still important?

I get so frustrated and annoyed when people make stupid common sense mistakes and I think it’s starting to affect my relationships. Don’t really know what to do.

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

Not sober currently. But think about it.
What happened to all your mates when you stopped? Did they dump you (because you make them feel guilty for drinking)? And what if your wife drinks too?

What is the organisation offering to qualified CAs for Associate/ Experienced Associate/ Senior Associate position (Assurance) at Bangalore location?

What’s the best product company in US to go into if looking to exit from consulting? Anyone with similar experience that they would like to share ?

Overheard Recruiting was deleted by Instagram. Their new account is: @overheardrecruiting_

Hi after technical discussion in Infosys I got mail to upload PAN Card, offer letter or compensation letter, photo and application form to fill and upload.
Can anyone plz confirm whether I’m selected for technical round?

I am having skills of Analytics but not getting job I know Excel and other tools also Power Bi, Google sheets, Google Data Studio, Python, My Sql in learning.

Looking to gauge if my current salary is competitive with the current market. I am a senior associate on the fund accounting team and make about $110k after bonus. Any thoughts?

Travel noob question. Is status on AA or DL more valuable. Doing a DCA-ATL run for a deployment. AA is bigger in DCA. DL has more ATL flights and more alt travel options. Which FF program is better?

Just bought 2000 United miles for $80 to book a flight with miles. Now want to cancel the flight but they said the miles are not refundable. Is this true? 😢

Anyone else a bit annoyed with the announcers right now? I get you disagree with the decision to not start the race, but man there was so much rain out there I can’t blame race control. I think it’s Crofty, not 100% sure, but the comments like “that car should have a driver in it going around the circuit right about now” are a bit much for me. Anyone else feel the same or am I just overreacting?

I had HR round long before and last Tuesday my HR sent me this link to feed my present employer data for Background Check.
When can I expect Offer letter mailed to me??

Hi All,

I am looking for a new opportunity on ITSM domain accross India on an immediate basis. Please let me know in case you can extend any help.


Prompt response is appreciated

Zanzibar vs Flimores. Which one is the best for a fun boys' night out in Toronto? Or any other recommendations?

Hey everyone! Looking for a mentor in the Denver area. Currently a media specialist working on the strategy side that is hoping to make the move into copywriting. Would love to bounce some ideas off of someone or simply learn more about your career path!

Do companies sometimes offer "gifts of appreciation" if you're not selected for a merit increase? My manager randomly called me to let me know I was chosen for the "gift" this year bc of my "hard work & dedication", except now I'm learning other colleagues are receiving actual merits.
I mean it's possible that I may receive a merit, but I feel like I won't considering my manager never brought it up & the dept update made it sound like those receiving it should know by now.
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Any ladies want to grab coffee at Ebenezers around Cap Hill?

Hope everyone in IFS is hanging in during this crazy COVID-19 time.

Whats the benefit of a roth ira vs an individual brokerage account?

“You know, women, they like yoga.” 🤭🤯 Thank you. I had no idea.

Ah yes, the recurring partner message on a Sunday afternoon to f*ck up what’s left of my weekend

Any recommendations on relocating to Hawaii? I am registered for the Hawaii bar but currently based out of Los Angeles and practicing in California as a licensed attorney.

Has anybody left the firm they started with to either go it alone or start a new firm with a similarly situated lawyer? It seems I’ll have to make a decision RE join a big firm, start a new one with another attorney(s) or go it alone in the next 5 years and I don’t even know how to begin to make a plan.

Anyone else use their laptop in a deposition instead of a pad and pen?

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!

Do any of you have side-jobs or maybe hobbies that you make money from? Alternatively, what do you think sounds like a good one to look into?

How does one find a therapist? Like what are the steps to finding a good therapist and does insurance cover anything? Everyone always encourages therapy, but never gives a run down on how to start.

Any tips on leaving a firm “correctly”? Was about to go “of counsel” with my firm of 6 years, but then another firm whose partners I really respect (and personally like) offered me a partnership position. I predict my current bosses will *flip* (cut off file access immediately, try to beat me to calling my clients, etc.), so how do I set myself up for a successful transition?

Quick temperature check: litigators, are you all underwater this month? This has been my busiest end of year season in actual years. I am getting slammed with expedited court deadlines from judges every, single, day. Clerks, what’s going on?! Send help.

Tips for becoming more independent as you progress from junior to midlevel? I am starting to be put into the position of just having to handle things including drafting and could use some advice from others.

What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed but still need to bill and meet deadlines?

I need to perform well after months of bad performance for 6 months to not get fired I'm scared but want to do it impossible?

What are things to be mindful of when becoming an equity partner?

What are the bowl’s thoughts on how to list representative matters as a junior-mid? Is this even something we should be doing? What if it’s not in a jx we practice in, so our name is not on the docket, motions, etc.? TIA

Anyone able to provide info on market comp for biglaw 5th-year in the Midwest (non-Chicago)?

Can I export a list with all emails I sent for the month? I would like to use it to compare to my billed time to make sure I don’t miss anything. Usually I go through my sent inbox but it has so much extra info so it’s not a quick scan. Plus outlook does weird things sometimes like combines conversations so I only see most recent sent item in that convo. Alternatively, do you have a good way confirming you caught all of your email time?

Does anyone else's firm use dictation phones? I have to use them so our secretaries can enter in our time but I cant stand it. Feels like i'm a lawyer in the 80s or 90s...