The next time a male coworker calls me out for being overly aggressive I'm going to call him out for being overly docile...

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I think you are being overly aggressive

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While I tend to agree a large portion of the comments like this are just insecure males, I'd caution you pause take a moment to self reflect and decide if it's not without merit. If you don't really think so, then ignore it. I know the idea that aggressive men in the office is a good thing, but 'aggressive' can easily be code word for 'dick'- and that looks as bad on men as it does women.

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God forbid a guy calls a woman overly aggressive. Clearly this guy is a sexist asshole that supports the patriarchy. This is the problem with feminists- I call other guys overly aggressive all the time, if you want equality than deal with it

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They want conditional equality - all of the upsides but none of the responsibility

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As much as I, as a female, wish that the bias against "aggressive" women wasn't a thing, be careful with the balance on this. Make sure your "aggression" is couched in such a way as to not get in your way for future promotions. It's gotten in my way more than I would wish on someone else

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@DB1 what you just said is just as applicable to men. Again, the notion that women who are "bitchy" and "aggressive" are treated differently than men who are also bitchy and aggressive is wrong.

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Thank you, GS1! Finally the voice of reason.

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@GS2 precisely. Will exploit every opportunity to claim discrimination. The wage gap is my favorite- has been time and time again debunked but its still the battle cry of feminists. If banks could pay females .71 cents on the dollar, every guy in banking would be unemployed.

Again: women may be called bitchy, but men will be called assholes. Seriously, it goes both ways- it's not just because you're a woman.

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