Turning 30 in 2 months and full of “I’m not..”s. I’m not as healthy as I wanted to be (on pat leave so snacking a ton) not as successful as I wanted to be (was hoping to be making 6 figs by now) and supporting a newborn on a 95k salary is tough.

I know I have so much thank god. My daughter has met all her grand parents. My wife and I are a real team, I’m healthy and have my hair. I love my community and my two bedroom apt but it’s hard to squash the negative self talk.

Any suggestions ?

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

My best friend has Celeste!

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

I am 52 I have been feeling so tired and when I was in my 40’s. I had a lot more energy. Now I am so tired after work - but I have 4 girls ages, 16-15-13-9. I am going through menopause and my Osteoarthritis hurts somedays and that doesn’t work. Any advice how to keep up with my four girls while feeling crummy?!?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

So my partner and I been dating for 5 months. But he's a man of literally very few words. What can I do to connect with him on deeper level, or any suggestions of questions I should ask him? To get know him better or to open up

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

If I get married to someone not a US national while my greenvard is processing, how does it impact my spouse’s ability to join me in the US?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

Moving to Chicago on Thursday! How do I like...make friends

Has anyone quit their job because of a relationship? I started my job 3 months ago and now my employer wants me to move to NY. The thing is, I fell in love during the pandemic with a friend that I have known for 3 years. It's frustrating since I know I could continue my job from home. I would honestly quit my job and wouldn't mind the job search again.

Why is Maddie trying to prove her love so badly??? He’s not ready! He’s conflicted 😐

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Can one of you awesome people please scan my resume for a ZS Associates referral?

Hi fishes. I am a third year and I was extended an offer to lateral to an Amlaw 100 firm, but as a second year. Is this common? I am coming from a specialty firm with four offices nationwide with a good reputation in our field. The lateral position is in the same field. Thank you!

What is the salary range for b2 in Wipro?

What is the max salary offered by Wipro for B2 band?.....

Is anyone know why the wipro extending joining date ? Is it safe to wait till the extended date.?

Thoughts on getting CFP when done with CPA (1 test left) and pivoting from audit to personal financial planning? Estates, taxes, savings, etc. Or should I just stick the OG plan and go into industry FP&A when I make senior/CPA?

Let's discuss, what do you think of the LSAT becoming optional or the ABA abolishing it all together? Looks like it'll be gone by 2025.

My boss refuses to take my advice and update our website, which is stuck in the 2010s. Why hire a marketer if you won't allow any changes to our marketing?

Hi fishes! I recently graduated. I got campus placed as associate analyst consulting in Deloitte in my 5th semester. It's been an year there was no communication from the Deloitte apart from the letter of intent. Now recently I received a mail saying we'll be onboarding in phases and onboarding will be completed for 2022 batch by February 2023 . Legit they are making us wait for another 6 months....like wtf is thissss!??!????!!!! Your opinion/advice/suggestions are most welcomed!!!

Leadership role in my state university’s alumni group vs leadership role at my firm’s early career group? Want to develop ways to show leadership for MBA applications in a few years. Thoughts?

Democratics are going to control the Senate?? Yah!

I got an offer in TCS with 15lpa for AWS Devops but also I got an offer with BMW with 18 lpa.Can I ask TCS HR to revise the salary as I have accepted the offer letter.Will they revise.

What’s a typical AE salary (mid market / enterprise) in London?

What would your reaction be if the company you applied to asked for you to get permission from your current firm before moving forward? The situation is the company you're applying to is a client of your current firm, and you've already gone through the interview process with the new company. Thoughts?

How much parental leave does your company offer to employees? Please include location, size of company and type of business. We are a SaaS company in NYC with 60 employees. We give 16 weeks paid for “primary caregivers “ and 6 weeks for “secondary “ caregivers. I want to advocate for everyone to get at least 12 weeks.

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

I burned out months ago and now I’m just in a rut. How do I fix this?

I'm pretty sure I've been suffering from ADHD my entire life. As a POC, admitting anything that remotely sounds like a mental disease wasn't an option. Now that I'm a growntheir 35 year old man...

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

Its my birthday. And nobody knows at my work I feel a bit awkward also first birthday I have to be all alone :/ . New city any ideas to celebrate myself ?:D

I live alone and work for myself. Having horrible productivity issues right now. Its a cycle of procrastination and shame. Horrible mindset to have while trying to “create”. Working out hasn’t helped

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

I’m not having harmful thoughts but I’m so sad and scared I wake up in the night crying. It makes me tired and I can barely focus. Ideas?

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

Can anyone recommend a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist in NYC? Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably

I feel like my brain is dying. I can barely think let alone think of good ideas. I’m angry and depressed and it’s consuming my thoughts.

Friendly reminder that depression is a protected disability. File paperwork with your company and they legally cannot destroy your health by overworking you.

How do you do weekly therapy while working full time? I'm looking to start and have a potential reoccurring evening appointment, but it would still require me to leave the office by 5 once a week.

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.