What are the condition you set to take him/her back?

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Probably depends on why you broke up. I've done a lot of self work, and I know exactly what I would want my ex to do if he wanted me back, one being going to rehab for alcohol.

Write down your own boundaries around why you broke up and what you wanted to change. And then state that, and watch if their actions match their words over a period of months. No one is going to change overnight

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As above said. Pretty much apologizing to their core and begging would be a start. But that won’t happen and they don’t deserve it

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They’d have to change everything and we know that’s not going to happen

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