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I would also be cautious with this person because they may not have your best interests at heart.
Was it to your face or behind your back?
I always call this out immediately. I’ve had friends do it in law school, not blantant racism, mostly comments they thought were funny were undertones of racism. I always made sure to call them out in a the most non attacking way I could. Make sure it’s one on one, and I just explain to them hey what you said wasn’t cool bc X,Y,Z. I’m not mad but I do want you to understand why I felt some type of way.
You could always try the “I’m sorry, I don’t understand the joke…care to explain?” with a straight face.
Or, if you’re feeling a little spicy, a puzzled look, followed by “oh! I get it! It’s funny because <stereotype>!”
This is a tough one. If you’re friendly enough I’d pull them aside and just tell them it wasn’t cool. If they’re a superior in anyway I wouldn’t pull them aside and I might go above to keep it documented.
You can probably talk to that person in private. Sometimes people aren't aware of it. If it persist, then you should take some action.
Depends on our relationship, what was said, and the context (audience, mood, etc). With good friends/friendly colleagues, we can have racy/outlandish banter. Some acceptable humor from the 80s-90s wouldn’t fly for most today, but I’m fine with it. If it was said in a condescending/one-sided or hateful way that’s a different story. Would either address it privately or call it out on the spot if it was egregious. I wouldn’t use snark or a “gotcha” type response. It merits serious discussion.
Being friends with you doesn't give them the free pass to disrespect you like that. Make a record of the incident, including details such as the date, time, location, and any witnesses present and take it to HR.
I'd have some strong words to them immediately.