Anyone here afraid to fall in love again? Found who i feel like is perfect for me but deathly afraid of making plans and pouring love and effort into the wrong person

falling in love again also means that my chapter with my ex is over. like actually. so scary

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When you find your ideal partner you will know. Your Ex’s will seem like a joke in comparison. Go with it. If they are the right person it will all work out.

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Omg! This is how I feel right now. Downloaded a dating app and I have a date this weekend. I feel excited but also everything in me says no because of the worry of being heartbroken again

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I totally get the new chapter thing. Struggling with the same thing. I’m worried it means I’m not yet ready to meet and invest in someone new / I’ll be leading them on, but you won’t know until you try.

Either way, it’s so encouraging to hear you met someone who excites you! I would lean into it :)

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Feels like i ghost wrote this wow. Yes trying my best to be present with the person I met because they do excite me

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I feel this so much. It’s hard to let go and I haven’t put in the work to do it. I am so used to being in that rut of the memory, sad, and playing the relationship over in my head. I don’t want to admit that it’s done because it’s all I’ve known. I’m comfortable here. You have to push yourself to try.

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update: i ended things w them 😃 got the sunday scaries

Not butthurt, just objective of your behavior.

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