At what age did you become a dad, and did you feel prepared?

I’m so scared to let a relationship that gives me anxiety go because I’m 36 F and feel like I’m not going to find anyone else. He’s not a horrible person, but he can be inconsistent. When I bring it up to him he says he’ll try harder but then always goes back to default. I stick around because I think it’s more a personality trait and not that he’s not interested in me (maybe I’m naïve). Could really use some encouragement from a bunch of strangers.

Just found out that my favorite aunt, who claimed I was her “favorite” niece, chose to leave all her valuables to her other two nieces who never visited or called her once in the last ten years. My aunt passed away suffering from cancer last year and didn’t have her own kids. I was there by her side throughout her battle. I still wish I had done more, made her life easier. I probably sound petty, but a part of me is forcing me to re-evaluate every interaction I ever had with her.

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Hey fellow fishes- I am looking to make some new friends in town and potentially meet a nice woman to start a relationship with; any ideas where should I start looking or start doing? I am thinking of volunteering some of my weekends.

2 friends from college just stayed up with me for 4 hours to make last minute edits to my horrid Wharton essays. Admit or ding I’m grateful to have friends like this in my life.

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

Getting ready to quit and I’m scared as heck!! But I feel like it’s now or never to follow my dream of taking a gap year to backpack the world!! Dealt with a lot of pushback and concern but this is it

I have a student who only comes to school two days a week and then only for 1 hour. He tells me I have to pass him so it doesn't matter. This is very frustrating. I knew this student hates school and often states he is stupid. I just do my best to encourage him. Build confidence. Any ideas to encourage him more? By the way, taking to his parent does nothing.

My friend’s ex is trying to win her back and she hates being single and like I ~should~ discourage this, but on a selfish level I want to be able to go out on his boat again this summer. He’s not a particularly horrible guy, but they’re a bad match when it comes to values/goals, which is why it didn’t work out the last time.

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Do men in their 30s actually want to settle down and get married? It seems like most are pretty happy with their single lifestyle. Asking as a 26F who is looking for commitment if I should even bother

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Would it be weird to send my ex a goodbye letter in the mail? He leaves for a military deployment soon for almost 1 year, and I generally care / miss him.

Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

My boss was telling me during SARS time ppl were racist towards Asians, didn’t believe her until today I got cut off on the street and a guy stared me down. Sign.

So, this is a little awkward, but I recently moved to SD for a fresh start, and honestly, I love this city. My problem is I have been more of a homebody since I moved here and I'm a little intimidated to go out and meet people because I don't feel like I fit in here. I am overweight and this city is full of active, and attractive people. I guess I am wondering what my experience would be if I got out more? I feel like people look at me when I'm in public because I stand out due to my size.

I’m so scared to let a relationship that gives me anxiety go because I’m 36 F and feel like I’m not going to find anyone else. He’s not a horrible person, but he can be inconsistent. When I bring it up to him he says he’ll try harder but then always goes back to default. I stick around because I think it’s more a personality trait and not that he’s not interested in me (maybe I’m naïve). Could really use some encouragement from a bunch of strangers.

Is everyone on a date, I’m still working 🥹

Last week joined in hcl. I got better opportunity in other company.If I abscand in hcl.does it any problem?still I have not assigned to any project , iam in Bench now?

Best movie ever?

If I were to go to the Cape in early October is there enough to do for a weekend? If so, where in the Cape do you recommend? Alternatively, also looking into Providence..

Any good referrals for criminal defense attorney in PA? The sister of someone I know was accosted while moving, she went indoors and called the police who did not show, then once back outdoors she got into an altercation w/ the person who accosted her but was only trying to defend herself. Now the aggressor has pressed charges. Please lmk ASAP !

Have any of you enrolled in or completed the Penn MCIT program and be willing to chat about your experience?

Can we start a thread for all the acronyms? Y’all lose me with all the lingo 😂

Has anyone used a career coach? Not a recruiter but someone who can give advice on making career changes. Any good names come to mind?

as another fish. have 13k left in car payments for another 40+ months, would you recommend doing a 10k onetime payment or investing that 10k instead. better to lower debt or keep paying monthly cost

What happens to the funds you're invested in if you roll an old employer's 401k into your current employer's 401k? Is your current 401k custodian able to continue keeping those funds invested even if they don't offer the funds themselves?

Thoughts on SoFi bank?

What is AMPB Recovery and in what conditions it is recoverable

***Urgent *** Where to join?

2 days left to join.
IBM - 17 lpa
Capgemini - 23 lpa
Tech - Oracle apps/fusion technical Yoe - 10 years.

I heard, there are projects shortage @IBM in Oracle Apps currently. (As my colleagues are on the bench for 2+ months in IBM after joining)

Please suggest IBM Capgemini Accenture Tata Consultancy

Have you ever failed to deliver? What was it and why?

Morning all. I am looking for a favour/solid advice. I've been in the interview process for a dream role over the past month or so and just found out I didn't get the job after final round 🙃.

Unfortunately this isn't the first time this has happened during the past year searching. Looking for a SC level role within healthcare/public sector consulting firm. I know the job scene is a bit miserable currently but if anyone in the bowl is aware of a role I would love to have a chat.

Thanks all

Which languages do you use at your job as a software engineer?