Before I even have an offer accepted, my mom's making mood boards. I appreciate the enthusiasm, but it's MY home, right? How do you get well-meaning family to back off?

I can’t imagine going back to working in the office everyday without seeing my boyfriend and plants all day. Just the thought of that makes me miss them!

Any dads out here? Wife is 20 weeks pregnant with our first and want to connect and know from fellow dads on how are they coping. How are you helping your partner? Feel I am not doing enough. Except for getting ready with the finances.

Pregnant moms, feel free to provide suggestions on what your partner is doing which you really appreciate. I got the foot massage part covered. 😉

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Any other lonely social workers in here? I mean a lot to some of the people on my caseload but that's about it. Don't have any family near me and it's hard to make friends with non-SW's mostly just because I'm too tired after work to want to do much. Do you spend most of your time alone or is your social time self care for you? Just feel like I don't have a support system!

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

My mother is considering moving back to Korea...

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

A question to my unmarried friends
What is stopping you from falling in love with a girl and marrying out of own choice
You are independent,earn well so what is the roadblock?

Anyone in the suburbs find it harder to make friends compared to the city? I don’t want to move back but I don’t know what else to do..

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

Working from home in customer support provides so much flexibility as a stay at home mom. I can take care of the home, my babies and work without feeling guilty ….talk about mutli-tasking!

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Hi guys,
I got an offer from epam but confused whether it’s epam systems or anywhere.
Could someone let me know who has joined epam anywhere recently if their offer has epam anywhere mentioned in it?
Salary has only fixed as HR mentioned that bench policy is revised on. Work location mentioned is also remote.

Sharing my experience with Deloitte USI interview and offer negotiation. I gave Deloitte interview 2 months ago. After managerial round I did multiple follow ups and Deloitte didn’t bother to reply. I moved on and got another offer. After 1 month Deloitte came back and asked for documents and didn’t show up for another 1 month. Today HR called and asked my expectations. I have 23.5 in hand so I asked for 26 which she said out of budget. Then I asked 23.5 fixed atleast. Contd… in comments

I recently got an offer from Infosys. Just want to check if my cap my pf to 1800 + 1800 ? To the most minimum one

I joined capgemini 15 days back still I did not get any project. Shall I obscand or resign any suggestions please

Who is better for India? I think she will do wonders if she becomes a vice president. What do you think?

What are different roles in LTI. I have got offer as P4 .May I know other roles from P4 onwards.
My exp is 11.10 years

Does wipro provides car parking to employees in Gurgaon cyber city office??

Hotels you’d recommend in Seville, Spain?

Working as a Manual Tester. Anyone can tell me how much time required to learn Automation Testing.???
So I can face the interviews. 😜

Hello All,

Can anyone recommend opening for ETL/DWH Test Lead profile, with good experience in Hadoop to Azure(ADB,Synapse) data migration testing?

Hey folks, does anyone know about a company called V2 Consulting? India based company, works on Salesforce projects.

To all who have exited from life sciences consulting, what firm did you work at, what did you exit into, and how is it going?

Hi,
Is python+microservices+ gcp is good techstack to grow?

Is it safe to join Paytm? I am afraid for the job security because we can see the stock price is plummeting and the payments Bank license is also on hold, etc. Please guide. I have 1 offer from other good company but pay is less compared to paytm (4-5 lakh difference)

Hi All,

Does LTI provide revised offer letter with new joining date and new salary structure?

If yes how much time it takes?

Thank You

Hi fishes,

Comment your total hike, VP , ctc current, level, designation, tech stack you have received as per Nov 22.

Any recommendations for a good water softener/filtering system which keeps the overall salt level low post-softening ?

Buying our first home and from a friend, we are both not using realtor. How do you got about doing this, does some have a playbook I can use?

I'd like to buy, but the market is absolutely atrocious currently

Any recommendations for buying agents in Massachusetts?

What is the most difficult part of buying a home for the first time?

I am brand new to the process and keep hearing conflicting reports. Should I be waiting out the market? Or is this the perfect time to buy if you can? I don't trust all these realty sites telling me I should buy now.

I’m really discouraged. My after tax / after 401k contributions etc. take home pay is $6,500 monthly. I have $60,000 in savings / stocks for a down payment but even looking at a $550,000 home, my monthly payment would be about $3,400 from the calculators I’ve been using. Is that too high?

So discouraged that houses where I live are about 50% higher than what they were 2 years ago, and now interest rates are around 5.25% for my credit score. This is like a 1750 sq foot home

With interest rates between 6.5% and 7.5%, it is safe to say that buyers are slowing down in their search.

I am a real estate agent who is in the process of closing on her first home. We offered $15k under list and asked for closing costs to be paid for. Granted, this is in a very small rural town; however, just know... If you have been looking for a home for the last 2 years and have not had great luck, now is the time to take advantage of the changing market. You can refi when rates drop.

If I see one more article on how millennials are ruining the economy or housing market by not buying enough homes or selling enough homes I'm going to scream. We were saving for 3 years before Covid and had to use a solid chunk to take care of ourselves and our families during quarantine. Now that we're ready to save again inflation and COL are at an all-time high and we're headed into a recession. And somehow this is my fault for what...not being a boomer? Bffr.

What do you wish you knew before you began the home buying process for the first time? What would change if you could go back to the beginning of the process?

I went from making $70k the last 7 years to now started a new job a month ago making $130k plus $10k bonus every year, and $60k in RSUs. I have $70k in my 401k and around $50k in savings. Want to get out of the Silicon Valley which has been home my whole life and buy in TX or AZ a ~$400k house. I have about $20k in student loans which my dad has offered to pay (wants to make up for never supporting me) but I’m waiting to see what Biden decides for student loans. Is this feasible? Credit is ~615

Would like some thoughts on a 2-br NYC condo my husband and I are considering. $250K HHI (no kids). No loans or debts, both have newish cars fully paid off.

Offer would be for $725K, with 10 percent down. 30yr mortgage @5%. We would need to include closing costs in the mortgage, to keep about $10k liquid. Monthly costs will be about $5k.

This unit is special, very rare (we’ve rented in the area for 10 yrs and know the local market well). Should we go for it?

Anybody here a FTB in London, UK?
If so what kind of mortgage rates are you expecting?

My partner bought a new truck earlier this month. We’re hoping to joint-purchase our first home next spring. Is there a “best” time to get pre-approved for a mortgage? When should we start the home buying process?

So far we’ve kept our head in the realtor apps to see what the market is doing.

Rent just went up, pressure is on!

Plan is to purchase some time after 2 years or so. Primarily to save up for a larger down payment.

Here’s my plan of attack:
- $30K saved right now ($20K in IBonds and $10K cash)
- $90K saved by July 2023
-$130K saved by 2023 and target a $800K home

Location: Suburbs of Boston, MA

Seeking some advice for home buying. Went under contract on a new construction back in March, was originally supposed to be ready in August but has been delayed until November. I’ve began getting quotes for mortgage rates through lenders and the best I’ve seen so far is 5.75% (excellent credit, dp at 10%) at a 60 day lock. Debating if I should test my luck with the market to see if rates will drop or if I should go ahead and lock my rate in before Rates increase even more

Please suggest popular areas for 2BHK affordable rent in Toronto. Both my husband and I work from home and have recently moved here. Have stayed in basement accommodation for over 6months. Would like to have a slightly bigger place.
Any recommendations please. Thank you!

Buying new home first time in Austin, what you recommend to do 10% down payment or 20%. If I do 20% then saving around 60k in a year. Considering inflation is coming and house prices is going down day by day.