Has anyone experienced blame shifting? In my romantic relationship we’re in sync 97% of the time but if I’ve constructive criticism, the dynamic flips, so I apologize to deescalate. I can’t ask for changes much. Like “next time you need spreadsheet help, try to plz anticipate it & not need it at 10 at night?” I’m reading that criticism’s perceived as a narcissist injury, oy! Years of therapy give me empathy but I’m discouraged. My partner’s amazing, but doesn’t have the tools. How can I help?

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That’s a narc trait for sure!

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Right there with you bud. My wife has been pulling shit like this for years. Constructive criticism whether in bed, or with Nieces/nephews (I’m significantly older than younger sibling so have decent experience with babies), “hey you know that filtering and summing you’re doing?... watch this magic, it’s called a pivot table” all exacerbated by the pandemic.

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