Have you had difficulty with family or friends mocking your work? I have some family who don’t think DEI “counts”

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YES! My parents are both very judgmental of the work I do. One time my mom said that I don't even really work and I'm paid to sit around at home (I work from home).
My dad once asked something along the lines of "so are you just taking the jobs a way from white men and giving them to BLM?"
I do think both of them have been brainwashed by Fox News. They weren't always like this

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Oh my god are we siblings

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Yikes on bikes! I’m a Black woman so every day I just fear the worst - the racial fatigue because *insert buzzword here* gets my department and funding cut in its entirety. You know, because racism just started in 2020 even though I’ve been working in this field since long before that? 🥴

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Racism getting Columbused in 2020 is diabolical!

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Maybe your hardest DEI project will be slowly changing your parents’ minds.

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So true honestly

I sometimes just say I’m in HR.

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My mom is literally a ACLU board member, so my folks are super supportive of my work. My in-laws don’t really get it, but they’re not hostile about it.

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Yeah, it’s really awesome. I’m grateful.

Luckily I don’t have to tell my family about details when they won’t be understanding. I end up speaking in a language they understand which ends up more like mafia talk. Imagine the voice of Don Corleone: « There are some people here who do not respect me. What have I done to make them treat me so disrespectfully? I am going to seek justice. »
I’m sorry your parents see it this way. There are so many people in the world who value highly what you do!!!

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Well… When the ask you for money, tell them no! It’s comes from a job they don’t value!

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