How do I figure out who to socialize/make friends with? I thought of myself as a charismatic guy but it's me and all these white guys and I just feel like I'm on the outside looking in. Should I just be looking outside the office?

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It may just take a bit of time. It took me almost two years to really feel comfortable at my company when I started out.

Keep at it, some people just have their guards up. But if you make a legit effort and feel rejection, then screw them. Your head is in the right place.

Totally feel you on this. Makes me feel like folks are too uptight.

Yep, and I just feel like I'm not 'getting it'


I have definitely been here before, still kinda in that position if I'm being honest. What helped me is focusing on what I had in common with my colleagues versus what was different. Also, just be yourself don't try to force it.

That’s me too.. I feel like that’s the nature of our business. But I trust no one now🤷🏽‍♀️ been real on the surface lately

I agree. Just give it time. Be yourself and I am sure you will make friends in no time.

Make an effort to spend time to socialize with them beyond the work setting. Have lunch together or grab coffee after work. Find something you have in common instead of zeroing in on your differences.

Interact with the people around you as much as you can and then observe. Go with people you vibe with. Making friends with coworkers is beneficial. I personally don't know how I can survive one work week without my coworker friends.

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